State Demands Sperm Donor Pay Child Support to Lesbian Couple

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baby handDo you know the difference between a father and a dad? The folks in the Department of Children and Families in Shawnee County, Kansas clearly don't. The department is going after a man who donated sperm out of the goodness of his heart to a lesbian couple. They expect the sperm donor to pay child support.

Sure, William Marotta is biologically connected to Angela Bauer and Jennifer Schreiner's child. But can anyone really say he's the girl's dad?

In 2009, before agreeing to donate his sperm for free to help the couple he met on Craigslist realize their dreams of becoming parents through pregnancy, Marotta signed an agreement that exempted him from any paternal rights. That means he got no access to the child.

So Marotta wasn't a dad. Not in name, and certainly not in practice. He wasn't the guy changing diapers. He wasn't the guy making bottles. He wasn't the guy playing peek-a-boo.

But giving up on "dadhood" in that contract was also supposed to protect Marotta from claims of paternity, including child support payments.

The problem is, it's not Bauer and Schreiner who are looking for support. It's the state, looking to recoup losses for public assistance paid out to Schreiner. It seems that in the time since their daughter was conceived through artificial insemination and born, the couple has fallen on hard times. Schreiner, the little girl's biological mom, had to file for financial assistance from the State of Kansas.

As a taxpayer, I want to commend them. But as a parent, I just can't. This smacks of punishing a guy for a good deed, and it turns the concept of "parenthood" on its head.

Marotta isn't a guy who had sex with full knowledge that he "may" create a baby that he will have to support whether he's an involved father or not. Those guys still have the opportunity to grow up and decide they want to be actual dads, and their responsibility to pay child support is in their decision to put themselves at risk of becoming fathers.

I mention it because it would be a glaring omission not to, but frankly that's a separate issue entirely.

Here we have a guy who helped a couple out with absolutely no intention of ever being an actual dad. He gets no benefits out of this situation at all; he can't even suddenly decide he wants to play papa. So why should he be punished?

Why should he be treated like a dad when he isn't one, when he really can't be one?

Do you think this guy should have to pay child support here? Is he really a dad?

 

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corri... corrinacs

Absolutely not.  He should NOT have to pay child support.

missusmc missusmc

Yikes.  This does not seem right at all.  If the man signed away parental rights, legally, he should not have to pay money, even to the state. 

nonmember avatar Rachel

Absolutly not!

Mom2f... Mom2fourlove

That is ridiculous!!! Poor guy!

Zamaria Zamaria

No he should not have to pay child support! That's just crazy.

Heath... Heather.Rose

I would go as far as the Supreme Court if I had to. This is totally unjust and not fair. They have a legal and binding contract. He should not be required to pay for a child he has nothing to do with. Its not like he is some deadbeat that abandoned his child. He was trying to help a couple to have children and should not be punished for that.

kisse... kisses5050

 soooo..if a couple adopted a baby and suddenly fell on hard times and used "public assistance"  would the state go after the birth parents?

bills... billsfan1104

Why did they mention him as the father?

nonmember avatar christina

Absolutely not. That is a really good question Billsfan. I wonder if he is listed on the birth certificate.

Ashle... AshleyB1984

No way. Hopefully this gets thrown out.

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