Every time I want to be jealous of Kate Middleton, another shoe drops. Yes, she's married to Hottie McHottypants Prince William. And yes, she is carrying the future prince or princess (come ooooooon princess). But man, oh man, does this girl have it rough.
Latest news? Kate and Wills are facing some royally pissed off grandparents over their plans on how to raise the heir to the throne.
The Duchess of Cambridge and the Prince are said to be taking a page out of the book of the late Princess Diana, planning to give their little one a more "modern" upbringing than the one great-grandma, the Queen of England, would prefer. Now, I can think of a number of things I'd rather do than tangle with Queen Elizabeth over how to raise her grandson. A visit to the dentist comes to mind. Or her perhaps a run-in with the IRS?
And yet, I hope Kate and Wills tell her -- and Prince Charles and Camilla -- where to stick it. Not only that, I hope it becomes public knowledge. Because the more new moms and dads hear about kicking meddling grandparents to the curb, the more ammunition they will have to keep their own family at bay.
I can just hear the rallying cry now: "If Kate can do it, I can do it!"
The trouble is, we often feel guilty telling the grands to go away. They raised us, and we feel like we owe something to them. And of course there's the whole "I have a young child, so I'm perpetually exhausted, and I really don't have the energy to fight over this."
And grandparents -- royal or not -- tend to have that air of authority that they use to their advantage. They're all "Well, I raised YOU, didn't I? I must know something!"
True. But that doesn't mean they know everything. And even if they're an actual expert in parenting (because can you imagine being Dr. Sears' kid?), they are still "just" grandparents.
YES! JUST grandparents.
Here's the hard truth: grandparents sometimes mean well. But they are always out of line when they tell us how to raise our kids.
Because guess who brought that baby into the world. Uh huh, you and your significant other. And guess who is ultimately responsible for that baby. Again, you and your significant other.
If little Princess Katherine falls down and bumps her knee, you can be it won't be Great Granny Liz swooping in to put Band Aids on. And if Chas III is wailing up a storm at 2 a.m., it won't be Camilla sticking her boob in the mouth to sate his hunger. Parents do the hard work. They can make the hard choices too.
Kate and Wills are about to be parents. THEY are. Not Queen Elizabeth. Not Prince Charles. Not Camilla Parker-Bowles.
And gosh darnit, they should be the best parents THEY want to be.
Any tips for Kate on telling the in-laws where to go with their parenting plans? How do you keep the nosy grandparents at bay?
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