Penelope Cruz Wants to Breastfeed a Stranger's Baby & So Do We (VIDEO)

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born twiceIn the new Penelope Cruz movie Born Twice, Cruz plays a woman who tries to breastfeed her surrogate-born baby. It's a dramatic scene, and Cruz's character fails because you can't breastfeed if you haven't actually given birth -- or can you?

I was wondering about this. I mean, I get the drama of the scene and for the movie it's kind of a moot point. But I'm a mom with lots of questions, so I wanted to find out: Can you breastfeed if you haven't given birth?

It's not easy. But it's possible!

You can induce lactation without giving birth -- usually by using a hospital-grade breast pump for about two months before you want to start breastfeeding. That jump-starts the breastfeeding hormones. Sometimes doctors prescribe additional hormone therapy as well, up to just before you start breastfeeding.

So that's pumping both breasts every three hours around the clock for two months. With a hospital-grade pump -- ever tried one of those? I have. SHUDDER. Anyway, it's a LOT of trouble to go through. I can see why there aren't more women out there committing to breastfeeding their adopted or surrogate babies!

Still, I think it's amazing that it's possible. I mean, sometimes it seems like there's just no end to the surprising things our bodies can do. Supposedly, if you're lucky, you can induce lactation just through hand-pumping instead of that horrid hospital pump. But you know, every woman is different, so what works for one woman won't work for another. There are women who DO give birth and still have trouble lactating. So there are no guarantees here! But it might be worth a try for those who have the energy and resources to do it.

Would you ever try to induce lactation to breastfeed a surrogate or adopted baby?


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miche... micheledo

I would certainly try.  Since I haven't stopped nursing in about 7 years (NO, I am not nursing a 7 year old for those reacting in horror!) I think it would be easy for me.

I do have a friend who was able to nurse her adopted daughter, although she also supplemented with donated breastmilk.

Teri_25 Teri_25

The hospital grade pumps are not that bad, and try feeding a baby, then pumping every hour and a half. It's just what we do for our children.

Rumsita Rumsita

I would try to relactate for an adopted or surrogate baby, but only because I've already been successful with breastfeeding.  I think if I hadn't had any experience with it, or it had been particularly difficult that I wouldn't have considered it.

nonmember avatar 7rin

I'm an adoptee, as are many many of my friends, and every single one of us that I've met considers breast-feeding SOMEONE ELSE'S child to be nothing short of pathologically abusive. It's even worse when the kid's four and the new adopter's trying to shove their tit in its mouth, but noooooooooo, it's so loving. *vom*

I've never yet met an adoptee who thinks this is in any way acceptable.

Philippa Hope-Hornsey

As a mother who was coerced into surrendering this is offensive, his adoptive mother also finds this offensive - she didn't breastfeed my son, she did breast fead her son ~ and my son finds it offensive.

Lucky... LuckyMa113920

I thought that when you adopted a child that became YOUR child? I didn't know that DNA would decide if you give your baby breastmilk or formula. I am someone that has to use formula but if you can give YOUR BABY the best, why would you not?

Lucky... LuckyMa113920

And 7rin the story was speaking about a baby, not a toddler. Just saying. Also I want to add that my Husband is adopted and had his MOTHER would have known that she was getting him ahead of time,  she did she would have tried to lactate. 

nonmember avatar 7rin

Sorry, LuckyMa113920, but adoption only changes legalities, not genetics, thus we NEVER become our adopters' kids. Adopters are ALWAYS raising SOMEONE ELSE'S child.

Also, just because the article's only on about babies, doesn't mean it doesn't get inflicted upon toddlers too. Just go nose through the baby-buyer boards that litter the Internet, and you can see for yourself how horrifying things are.

nonmember avatar endlessfire

When you drink milk from the store you are drink cows breastmilk. This should disgust you even more than the article because not only is unrelated breastmilk being consumed but it's an entirely different species.

nonmember avatar MothertoAll

Why be appalled by a parent trying to feed/love/embrace/bond to a child in any way they can, especially if they have not had the advantage of nature's bond, the act of giving birth? Is it because you were not given the chance, as an infant to your own mother, or an adult adopting out (forced or not), to bond? Were you violated somehow, emotionally, physically, and so all intimacy you see related to the body is a violation now?

Though this may be your individual perception and reality, it is not so for most people in the world. It's okay to be angry and hurt at the things you were denied as a parent and/or child. But to judge others for trying to reach out, trying to relate, trying to be the parents and give the love the child so deserves and that the parent so desperately wants to give, just because you define another being as 'someone else's child'? What a narrow and sad perspective. How limited your definitions of love and giving and family.

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