Adorable new mom Hilary Duff recently said that she might be "one and done" with her son Luca. And by that she means -- she may not have anymore kids. Duff told Access Hollywood Live: "Mike and I are literally obsessed with Luca. We’re like, 'He’s perfect. We should just be one and done.' But I think once your baby starts getting older, you miss that phase and you go in for round two. Maybe when [Luca's] two or three?"
Hilary, I hear you. I hope to have another kid someday, but sometimes I think: How can I possibly love anything as much as I love my daughter?
I know, I know, it just happens. Parents with more than one child -- including my father -- have recited this to me time and again. And I 100 percent believe them. But as of now, I'm a mom of just one, so that's all I know. And like I had no clue what I'd be in for before I had a baby -- the crazy, borderline-psychotic love -- I have no clue what I'll (hopefully) be in for with two.
Truth is, sometimes I actually feel bad for my as-of-now-non-existent second child. There's just no way I'll be able to pay as much attention to him or her as I do with my baby now. It's just not possible. If everything goes as planned, my daughter will be a toddler when our next baby is born -- and from what I've seen, toddlers need a lot of attention. Attention that will take away from a newborn.
I'm getting ahead of myself, I know. But it's what I do. Terrible habit. I realize I won't be the first person on planet Earth to have more than one kid, but it just seems ... hard, and I imagine there's a certain level of guilt involved. And, like all parents, I love my child so much that it seems crazy that I could possibly have even more love in me to go around.
But I know I will. Because that's what happens when you have kids.
Were you nervous to have more than one child?
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My husband and I would like to have another baby, our girl is 5 now. We've been trying for a few years now, so it may be that it's not in the cards for us, or at least not without medical intervention and I don't know that we really want to start down that road. We had him tested and we know that the "problem" is him, but we haven't started to explore what that means as far as options go. I don't really want us to go into debt and/or end up on hormones that make us go bat-shit crazy (as I have heard has happened before) or, even worse, have our marriage fall apart because of the stress of the fertility treatments. So....we may be one and done, whether we like it or not. Of course, there's always adoption...
My daughter is 14 months old, and I can already feel that ache for a tiny baby. We're planning on having a couple more, and with our careers, it'll need to be soon, so I'm lucky that the right timing and the little ache are timing up well. We'll see if it's in God's plan though, in another few months.
My DS just turned 7 and we are quite content to be "one and done"
We love the financial freedom it gives us to enrich his life with experiences and the fact that we can devote all of our attention to him
my daughter is 5... i am most definitely "one and done" At this point, i'm just not willing to start over. She's 5, and we can go anywhere we want including the movie theater! We enjoy our shopping days, she even eats sushi... She's mommies lil buddy, and I want to keep it that way.
I was one that said one and done but now that my son is 5 years old and being independent I look back and miss those times of him as a baby. It took this long to finally decide Jan 2013 my bf and I are officially going to start TTC. Sometimes I am very excited but at the same time I am nervous.