Megan Fox Shouldn't Be Judged for Hiring a Baby Nurse, But She Will Be

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megan foxFull disclosure, until her recent whirlwind media tour, I completely forgot that Megan Fox was ever pregnant or had a baby. And that's ... impressive. It isn't every day that a Hollywood actress gets pregnant, and doesn't turn it into a 10-page Us Weekly spread and a subsequent nursing bra line. Megan stayed mum about her pregnancy and birth for a while -- and now that she is talking, I've gotta say: I think what she's saying is refreshing.

Okay, so you know how basically every time a gorgeous, rich celebrity gives birth, they give an interview afterwards, talking about how they're not getting a nanny (despite being at a 14-hour photo shoot and interview); how they're breastfeeding 900 hours a day; and how the only thing they would ever consider letting their child sleep on is a mattress made of organic pony hair? Yeah, Megan's not doing that. She's pretty much just like, "Yeah, I'm getting a baby nurse. Problem?"

Recently, Megan, half-jokingly, admitted that she said to her husband, Brian Austin Green: "We have to get a night nurse or we’re going to get a divorce because somebody’s got to sleep in this house or we’re going to kill each other." And I respect that. Did I have a night nurse after having my kid? Nope! But if I were as rich as Megan Fox, hell yeah I'd get one! Why not? Seems like it would really make things with a newborn a lot less stressful. Doesn't make Megan any less of a mom.

Like a lot of parents, my husband and I had no help at all when we brought our baby home from the hospital -- and very little (if any) experience. And I admit, in the beginning, when things were really crazy, we weren't always our best selves. Far from it. If there would have been a nurse or a doula or someone to take the gigantic pile of recyclables down the stairs for us, that would have been awesome. And it would have made things less stressful.

I sort of feel bad for celeb moms these days. The public is basically just waiting for them to fail. Mothers are judged more than ever today, and when you're famous, that judgment is multiplied by a thousand. I honestly think this fear of being judged is part of the reason they're all quick to share a photo of themselves nursing their babies on Twitter (don't get me wrong, I think a mom nursing her baby is gorgeous, but remember the backlash Beyonce received after showing a photo of her daughter drinking out of a bottle?). I think it's why they feel the need to proclaim to the world that they're not getting a nanny. (Would anyone honestly care?) And I think maybe it's even part of the reason Kourtney Kardashian devoted an entire episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians to "deciding whether or not she was going to have a water birth." (PS Kourtney does have a baby nurse -- at least, that's what Khloe said in an episode. Who cares?!) And let's not even get into the baby weight issue. If they lose it too quickly, they're selfish. If they don't, we'll see a photo of them in the National Enquirer with red circles surrounding their cellulite. Fun times.

It's kind of sad that celebrity moms are so scrutinized -- that all moms are. I mean, shouldn't having kids be about uniting people? Shouldn't having kids make us all a little less ... judgmental. Seems like a crappy trait to pass on to our kids.

So, yeah, I think it's cool that Megan flippantly said that she got a baby nurse. And I'm sure most of use would do the same if we were in her position.

Do you think celebrity moms are judged?

 

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Missy Anne Monarch

Hell yeah, I'd get a baby nurse if I had that kind of money. It doesn't make me any less of a mother to get some sleep.

johni... johnie_carney

i guess im strange bc i didnt want ANYONE to take care of my son. he had to go to the hospital for four days bc of jaundice and i didnt want the nurses doing anything but the medical things i couldnt do. i changed ALL diapers, feed him etc. one time i went down stairs to eat and came back to a nurse feeding my son. for some reason i became uncomfortable even tho i knew she was just helping me so i could eat myself. i pry should have accepted help bc i got 4 hr or less of sleep during that time.

Mom2f... Mom2fourlove

I feel there only that little once and I take every moment even the late night feedings. I have a 3 year old, 2 year old, and 6 month old and have never been away from them overnight. I had my last baby at 1pm and by 9am the next day I had all my kids in the hospital with me but that's just me! If you feel like watching your baby through the night is such a burden then get a night nurse!

mrssh... mrsshelton_2

It wasn't that bad with my and my husband's first child- He got up and made a bottle, I fed her, he changed her diaper, and then we laid her back down. And we slept when she did. With our second daughter, he was working during the day, so I was at home with a 16 month old and a newborn and having to get up with her at night. He still got up quite a bit, but he was leaving at 5am for work, so I felt that he should get to stay in bed and sleep. We were lucky though, because both girls started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks and have ever since.

nonmember avatar Michelle

Hey at least she's honest. I would rather hear her admit she's getting one than try and be one of these celeb wonder mamas that claim they are doing it all on their own. BULLSHIT. If any of us had the cash we would have hired help in a second. But guess what? The hired help wouldn't have done jack shit for me anyways...my daughter was up every two hours to breastfeed...no one else can do that for me! But it doesn't last forever...and mrsshelton2...OMG is all I have to say to that. No wonder you didn't think it was that bad! Lucky girl :)

Samantha Bennett

If she's got the money to do it, that's her business. However, those long grueling nights are what allows for the bond. That's just my opinion. Also, I think the fall out about Beyonce bottle feeding just fed the "She didn't birth her" debate.

moren... morena1306

i say whats wrong with it why should you be miserable when you dont have too i would say she should try to get the baby every now and then at night to bond but what about us regular folks who sometimes have a mothers, sisters , best friends or who ever we can get stay with us for a few days after the baby comes home isnt that not the same thing as long as the baby is well taken care of and she isnt leaving everything to that baby nurse i think it will be fine


 

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