megan foxThere's a little man threatening to destroy Megan Fox and Brian Austin Green's happy marriage: Their baby boy, Noah. Megan recently confessed telling her husband, "We have to get a night nurse or we’re going to get a divorce because somebody’s got to sleep in this house or we’re going to kill each other." Okay, then! Get thee a night nurse or two.

And they did. Megan said she didn't hire a nurse in the first place because "I overestimated my own abilities. I had no idea how difficult babies could be, so Brian and I were exhausted." And well, yeah. For every new mom who claims her baby is "so easy!" there are about 200 new moms saying, "ZOMG I DON'T THINK I'M GOING TO SURVIVE!"

Megan and Brian are lucky they can afford a night nurse. Most of us can't, so we just muddle through. And this is why family leave -- especially paid family leave -- is so helpful.

I mean, Megan is joking about that divorce bit. But a baby really does have an amazing ability to totally upend a relationship. If you're not getting enough sleep, resentments can arise, and then there is the yelling, and Mom crying with the baby at 3:00 a.m., and Dad crawling out of bed saying, "Oh here, please, let me take over!" and Mom wailing, "Why did we think this was a good ideaaaaaa???"

It's hard.

And there's just no preparing for it. I'm sure people told Megan it would be hard (or maybe she's surrounded by smug moms who had "easy" babies?). And she probably kind of believed them -- but I bet she also thought, It's just a baby! How bad can it be? Well, it's about everything else: The sleep deprivation, worrying that you're doing it right, never having an adult conversation anymore, struggling to take a shower. All this can take a first-time parent by surprise.

But you know what? It gets better. That sleepless newborn phase lasts just a few months. And eventually your child will sleep through the night. You know, give it a few months, or maybe six years or so.

Were you surprised at how hard those first few months of parenting can be?

 

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