10 Signs You're Suffering From Baby Fever

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third baby
I totally need another one, right?
For the past four years, the topic of a third baby has drifted in and out of my husband's and my conversations more and more. We had our first two in rapid succession and quickly felt overwhelmed and terrified of the idea of a third.

Our first two pregnancies had been easy to achieve -- almost frighteningly so -- so we took intense measures to avoid a third pregnancy. Now I find myself at a crossroads. We talk about it constantly, both want another one, and yet don't want to go back all at the same time. It's an odd and awful limbo that causes me to break down in tears every time a friend announces a pregnancy or puts up a new baby photo. Should we? Shouldn't we? Who even knows. Am I grieving the child that will never be or depriving myself of a child I need to have? Or am I simply going insane.

With this in mind, here are 10 signs mama needs another baby, stat:

1.) You burst into tears at the sight of your Facebook feed and all it's birth and pregnancy announcements.

2.) You daydream about nursery colors instead of working, picking out all the wall decals and bedding in your mind.

3.) You buy baby outfits for friends and can't bear to send them because MAYBE you will have another one and MAYBE you will need that outfit and it will be out of stock. 

4.) The sound of a baby crying makes your boobs tingle even though you haven't lactated in more than two years. Actually, scratch that. The THOUGHT of a baby's cry makes your boobs tingle. Yep. It's true.

5.) You actually contemplate picking up a stray baby in the store and asking the mom how bad she REALLY wants her. It's a stray second of insanity, but enough to scare you.

6.) Your best friend has a baby and you still don't give her all the beautiful Hanna Andersson clothing in mint condition that no longer fits your big kids. You don't want it to get dirty! Just in case!

7.) You move hundreds of dollars worth of stray baby items to your new home even though you have no baby on the off-chance you might again. Someday.

8.) You have a million practical reasons not to have a baby and you still long for one.

9.) You daydream about baby names and feel like you will be lost if you don't get to name a baby after your great aunt Mildred who died with no children.

10.) You totally can't remember the sleep deprivation and think, It couldn't have been that bad, right?

Do you think about another or are you done? How do you know you're done?


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dirti... dirtiekittie

first, thank you for not making a slideshow! hooray!

and thanks for this article. i've been flip-flopping about a third child for probably the last year or so, and my husband kind of goes back and forth too. but, i know we're done. as much as i think i might want those snuggly little moments, i look up at my kids now (nine and four year olds) and think - dang, they're so independent and we're going through all new things every day. every day is a new adventure, and do i want to take away from that to focus on starting over? we also have two girls, so i won't lie - the urge to give my husband a son is *very* strong. but we both agree, we love our girls and our family works just right for us. so instead, we're focusing on getting the kids to be more responsible around the house with us, and then we get a family dog! :)

butte... butterflyfreak

While my husband and I have been actively trying for a few years, we have yet to have our second baby. Bums me out but we will be ok with just our daughter if it works out that way. We may consider alternative methods of conception and/or adoption. I'm leaning more towards adoption because even though I would love to carry another child inside me, I don't know if I could handle the hormones that they have you take, plus there are many children out there who need a forever home with a family that loves them. Why shouldn't it be us?

leona24 leona24

I knew I was done after having three boys when every time I wanted a girl!! Lol I can't handle another boy!!! So we are done.

OoOJa... OoOJanisOoO

#5 made me laugh! I always get baby fever when my youngest is about 3. I just had my fourth. My husband doesn't want any more which I toatally understand but the thought of never having a baby again makes me very sad.

Jodi 'Box' Crain

My daughter just turned 4, and my DH has always said he wants his kids to be 5 years apart, sooo come june/julyish i will be really pushing for baby #2. Because, let's  be honest, I've wanted another baby for 2 years now!

jalaz77 jalaz77

Thought I got passed the baby fever when our 3rd hit 18mo-2yrs, everything goes downhill til they are 4 at this age. Then BOOM, accodently got pregs on the pill, I actually never thought that was true til it happened to me, missed by a few hrs!?!? I think that pill wasn't working for me anymore cause I was spotting every month...still shocked but we are happy.

Amanda Johnson Hull

I never want to regret anything, and I know I would regret not having another baby.  And I would never regret my child.  Having a baby garunetees no regret.  Plus, I know that maybe another maybe will mean possibly less attention from me, but I really believe kids get SO much from their siblings, I see it as a gift to my other kids.  

Livin... LivinBlessed

I was supposed to schedule a vasectomy for my husband, but I haven't... I know we have decided to stop, but I just can't stop thinking that we're meant to have one more. *sigh*

Angie... AngieHayes

I have two, a 2 and 3 year old, boy and girl... I keep thinking about a third, I don't know why, things are just getting easy for me. We actually have a schedule! Why would I want to disrupt that with a new baby?!?!?!?!

Deana Joy

You could use common sense and try to make use of those brain cells given to you. Can you afford one? Do you NEEEEEEEEED another baby? or do you simply need to feel needed? What is the best choice for your family in the long run? Should you get a pet instead? Don't have a baby because you need to be a mom again; or because you miss being pregnant. There are already two children existing that need you as their mother. Have a baby because you feel it is something you are meant to do with every circumstance in your life. If you don't want to get pregnant again and want another child - adopt. Everything happens for a reason.

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