21 Things Not to Do After a C-Section

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mom babySo you had a c-section. It happens to even the crunchiest mamas among us. Things don't go according to plan, you end up with some severe something, lives are in danger, and cesarean it is. It can be a hard reality for some women, but we can't rewind to do anything differently so we have to press on ... and find some sort of humor in it. Because laughing does help -- though good Grover it's going to hurt like heck if you laugh too hard. 

Grab a pillow, especially you c-section mamas still in the recovery stage, and hold it softly against your belly because there may be some chuckles here mixed into the list of the things I think you should never ever do after a c-section.

  1. Don't waste 32,446 hours lamenting over the fact you didn't have a vaginal birth.
  2. Don't make the anti-cesarean-no-matter-what crowd get you down. There aren't a lot of them -- they just are loud. Not even midwife and natural birth advocate Ina May Gaskin, my personal hero and inspiration, thinks all c-sections are unnecessary. Sometimes they just are.
  3. Don't think driving home from the hospital is going to be awesome. Yes, you are going home and that's fantastic but every bump the car drives over will inflict a dose of pain you didn't even know you could have. Have whoever is driving go slow, and cushion your belly with a pillow.
  4. Don't you dare get sick because if you have to sneeze while recovering from a c-section that pain in your incision area will hurt like heck. Pillow must always be handy to soften those blows.
  5. Don't cough either for that matter.
  6. Don't eat anything that is going to give you gas.
  7. Don't eat anything that is going to make you constipated.
  8. Don't brag about the perfect shape head your baby has because she wasn't a vagina baby.
  9. Don't ever say "vagina baby" out loud.
  10. Don't lose your sense of humor. Ever. But ...
  11. Don't laugh unless you have that pillow handy.
  12. Don't forget to have a lot of pillows around you at all times. You need them to protect your incision area for any coughs, laughs, and sneezes, but also to prop you up all nice and cozy at just the right angle so nothing hurts as you heal.
  13. Don't cry in the shower wondering when you are going to feel yourself again. Okay, you can cry, but not too hard because your incision will hurt if you end up sobbing.
  14. Don't get angry at your OB/GYN for not working some magic to make your stomach flat again since she was prodding around in there to get the baby out. I think the bump is good so you can't see your incision. Speaking of ...
  15. Don't screw around with your incision area. Don't even look at it. Let your husband check it to make sure it's okay.
  16. Don't expect the numbness to go away right away. It's been 3 years and I still have numbness.
  17. Don't think the doctors forgot to put your abs back in place. They're there ... they will just take a lot of time to feel like you can use them again.
  18. Don't bother with housework. Let friends and family who offer to help out do the cooking and cleaning so you can focus on recovery and not rush things to derail your progress.
  19. Don't climb stairs. If you have two floors, set up camp on one of them.
  20. Don't forget that pain meds are your friend. Of course don't take too many, but just enough, around the clock if necessary, so you aren't in pain and you can enjoy your beautiful baby ... or babies for my multiple mamas.
  21. Don't ever think for one second that your c-section makes you less of a mom or that you didn't birth your baby. Baby just came out of a pocket in your belly, unwrapped like a gift.

Solidarity, my c-section mamas. May you heal quick!

What would you add to this list?

21 things not to do after a c-section


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MomLi... MomLily67

Don't ever ever feel your body will not be as beautiful as before the c-section, It's a battle wound!!! .

Please do follow your Doc's advice, c-section is a major surgery, be patient.

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

This list is great! As a mom who had 2 c sections within 2 years I can honestly say I wouldn't add anything. And thanks for addressing the fact that if you have a c section there really is a feeling that you are less of a mother because you couldn't "birth" your baby. I also couldn't breastfeed both times so I felt like an even bigger loser!!!! Now I'm proud of my scar, it's a battlescar my husband says. It just shows the pain I went thru to have my 2 beautiful children.

Madam... MadameGarlic

This is a good list. I went through the typical "failure to give birth naturally" thing, so I sympathize with everyone who shares that feeling. It is really true, though, that it goes away after a while and you end up feeling like a righteous queen mama.

Pam.N.42 Pam.N.42

I didn't have a c-section, though I almost had to, but I know that it is totally silly to think that you are any less of a mother! It is a surgery, so the recovery must be hard especially with a new baby. I had appendicitis when my daughters were young and that was hard, I think you guys are rockstars for dealing with new borns after an even more intensive/invasive surgery. 

rcapo... rcaposella

I love this article and everything about the emotional side of c-section is true. But I'm happy to have my baby here whether he was a c-section baby or not. Finally with time the scar get's fainter and fainter. Thanks for the list of what to do in case I have to have another c-section in the future.

nonmember avatar ACE

I never felt like less of a mother! My baby's heart rate was faltering and I felt like a warrior mom when they cut me open to keep my baby safe. (And after 8 hours of labor and not dilating past 4 I was secretly glad.)

nonmember avatar Littlefrogs

Don't forget to take your stole softener... even if you aren't eating anything that would normally make you constipated, pain meds & anesthesia cause constipation on their own.

My incision popped and was open for 12 weeks after giving birth. It was AWFUL.

nonmember avatar Brianna

I appreciate this article more than you know. I had some major depression after my c-section and stil don't feel like I "birthed" my baby. I don't know what it feels like to have a baby. I missed out on that beautiful moment and did not get to hold my baby right away. It still makes me sad but thank you for this article.

Histo... HistoryMamaX3

Laughter after a c-section is NOT the best medicine. lol Find pillow that fits comfortably in your hands and can be quickly relocated to your stomach in a seconds notice- you're going to need it!

And remember, you brought forth life unto this world. To be technical, the term 'give birth' means: cause to be born.You are awesome- you gave birth by causing a child to be born unto this word- and if ANYONE tries to tell you otherwise, they're idiots. No need to bother with them and their worthless opinion.

nonmember avatar Amy z

Don't think your tummy can never be strong again. It can! Let yourself heal and get to work. You can be in the best shape of your life if you want to be.

And - get some chocolate boost shakes for the house. You might not feel like eating but you need to keep up your energy.

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