Old Lady Trips Over Carseat in Store & People Start Judging the Mom Who Left It There

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infant car seatThere's a discussion going on over in the CafeMom Newcomers Club today over whether or not infant carriers should be placed on the ground out in public, which is something I'm sure we'll all admit to doing on more than one occasion.

I mean, infant carriers are pretty darn heavy, and if you need both hands free, where else are you supposed to put it other than on the ground?

Well, one member witnessed another mother having a bit of a scary incident by choosing to do so. Here's her description of what she saw go down during a recent shopping trip.

I was at Macy's today, there were 3 people in line. An old lady who was paying, a mom with a newborn in a carrier and me at the end.
The lady in front of me with the infant carrier sets the carrier on the floor beside her. The old lady paying in front of her takes a step backwards, when she did she tripped over the infant carrier and fell directly on top of the newborn, she had no idea the carrier was there. Old lady is hurt, baby is hurt, everyone is screaming at each other. Ambulance had to be called, both old lady and newborn went to the ER.
While out in a public place, do not sit your infant carrier on the ground!

While some members are reacting solely to what happened by showing concern for the baby and the elderly woman injured, others are basically calling the mom who placed the car seat on the floor irresponsible, and saying she should've been paying attention to what was going on around her.

Good grief! Can't a girl catch a break? Just because her arms needed a little relief doesn't make her a bad mom, and I highly doubt she had any intention of hurting anyone when she placed that carrier on the floor. Plus, that old woman could have just as easily lost her footing and fallen if the carrier weren't even there.

And besides the fact that this was nothing more than a freak accident, I can't help but wonder how many dumb things the moms criticizing her have done with their own kids, because I don't care who you are -- ALL moms make mistakes from time to time.

I know I'll never forget my first, "Wow, I'm the worst mom on the planet" moment. My son was about 4 months old, and while I was doing laundry, I laid him down in the middle of my king-sized bed so I could run down the hall and grab the clean clothes from the dryer, and as soon as I got to the laundry room, I heard a thud. And I knew before I even made it back to the bedroom that I would find my precious baby boy lying on the floor.

He was lying there on his back with a wide-eyed look, and as soon as he saw me, he burst into tears, and so did I. Apparently he'd gotten much better at rolling over than I thought, and even though I'd put him in the middle of the bed plenty of times before, this time he managed to get himself all the way to the edge.

I felt absolutely terrible, but you know what? I was a new mom, and I made a new mom mistake. And I learned my lesson and it never happened again.

The poor mom with the infant carrier deserves to be cut some slack, because she's allowed to mess up from time to time just like the rest of us. Hmm. How does that whole, "let she who has never screwed up cast the first stone" story go again?

Have you had a "worst mom on the planet" moment yet?

 

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nonmember avatar sarah

how did this mom make a mistake? those things are heavy and no one is expected to hold it plus whatever she was buying the entire trip. why is there no fault being put on the woman who didnt look before backing up?

Michelle Tribble

What if it had been a two year old standing there that the woman tripped over? The older lady is at fault. She should have been aware of her surroundings! I'll be honest though, when I did have my kids in a carrier I made sure to put it directly in front of me and slightly between my legs. People just aren't aware and could drop something or as in this case fall on your poor kid. I much preferred my sling or wrap.

mande... manderspanders

"Plus, that old woman could just as easily lost her footing and fallen if the carrier weren't even there."  ---seriously?? cuz "old women" just randomly fall.   I have much pity for when you reach 50+ years old and  younger women refer to you as an "old woman".   We don't know this woman's age, but obviously, this mother put the carrier in a place where it COULD be tripped over and now her baby is hurt.  She should have paid more attention to where she placed the carrier to make sure her baby wouldn't be harmed. 

dirti... dirtiekittie

yup, i had that when my oldest was in her crib. she tried to climb up the bars of her crib, but we didn't think she was big enough to climb out. until the night she decided she wasn't ready for bed, pushed her blankets in the corner of the crib and popped herself over the top of the crib. she hit the ground and i heard that thud and panicked like crazy. she was fine, a little shook up, but no worse for wear. it happens to all of us, even the best of us. it's called life.


and in this instance, my biggest concern is that the baby and elderly woman are both ok now. you could lay blame wherever you wanted, but in truth it sounds like a freak accident to me. it could have happened to anyone.

Jessy Roos

This sounds like nothing more than an unfortunate accident. I hope that both the old lady and the baby are okay, and the mom is extended some grace and compassion in a situation where she probably feels terrible! I'm not a mom, but a nanny, and as a professional I have made stupid mistakes. Last month I was holding the one year old and accidentally bonked his head on the corner of the low hanging hood fan. I felt terrible!! He was crying and there was a little cut and all I wanted to do was use a time machine to go back and keep myself from causing him pain. But in the end he was okay, and I have to forgive myself. Stuff happens.

nonmember avatar Aundrea

So if I let my 4 year old stand beside me in line, it would be my fault if someone, who wasn't paying attention, tripped over him? Highly unlikely. The older woman should of looked before she stepped back.

cmjaz cmjaz

I've done dumb things but not that particular one. Usually had a carrier that fits in a shopping basket. Or I put carrier between my legs. Just easier.

Vegeta Vegeta

What if it was a toddler standing next to his mom? The old lady would have still backed into him. If your in a line, you know there's people behind you.

Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

Hell, I used to trip over my own baby's carseat when she was little. I don't think either individual is at fault, it was an accident. If someone accidently fell over something I put down behind them, something that is the size of a medium sized package and couldn't be easily seen, I would have been the first to say "I'm sorry, are you okay?". I don't assume the people around me are being super vigilant. That's just stupid. I make it a point to assume everyone around me is an idiot so I can take proper precautions. 

Alaina Quist

the old lady was in a line, which by definition most likely means that there will be some one behind you, unless you are last which she wasnt, pay attention!!!

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