The Best Age to Have a Baby: Teens

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photo by trishasjunebug

What's the best age to become a mom? There isn't one. A recent study shows that older moms and younger ones can do the job just as well. And as we all know, it's a tough job. Still, being a young mom has its advantages and its disadvantages, as does being an older mom. I interviewed moms of different ages to see what they had to say on the subject so we could all appreciate each other a little more. All this week in the Baby Buzz, you'll hear from women who became Baby Mamas in their teens, their twenties, their thirties, and their forties. And you'll find we're not so different after all. We're moms who love our kids no matter how old—or how young—we are.

Today: Meet four fabulous women who had babies in their teens.

 

Meet trishasjunebug, Baby Mama to 5-month-old Kyle
 

How old were you when you had your first baby?
I was 17 when I had Kyle. I didn't decide, I got pregnant by accident, but I wanted to keep him and raise him even though I wasn't all that ready to have him.

What did you like about becoming a mom at that age?

It helped me grow up faster. It helped me go back to school, get a good career, be more responsible.

Were there any downsides to becoming a mom at that time in your life?

People talk behind my back, thinking there's no way I'm a good mom because I'm young. I lost a lot of friends, but I really don't care. I love my son. I get nasty looks in public; people tell me I made a huge mistake. In my eyes, Kyle is the best thing that could ever happen to me.


Meet mamapotter,
mama to 13-year-old Alexandra, 9-year-old Caitlyn, and 5-year-old Paige

How old were you when you had your first baby?
16—it wasn’t planned.

What did you like about becoming a mom at that age?

Being young meant that I would still have a lot of life ahead of me when she was old enough to be on her own. Teenagers have enough energy to keep up with toddlers!

Were there any downsides to becoming a mom at that time in your life?
I was still immature, and easily became overwhelmed. I didn't always make the right choices about things, like who I had my baby around. Also, it was overwhelming when she got colic.


Meet KylersMom8-16-7, Baby Mama to 15-month-old Kyler, with another baby on the way

How old were you when you had your first baby?
I had my first baby at 17. I decided to have my son because I knew I would have a lot of help and support from my family. I also knew that I could handle it, however hard it was going to be.

What did you like about becoming a mom at that age?

I really just loved being a mom, my age didn't have anything to do with it. I felt like being a young mom would be more fun--I would be able to be an active mom longer.

Were there any downsides to becoming a mom at that time in your life?
I don't feel like there was any downside. I didn't give up anything—I was still able to go to school and do what I needed to do.

 

 

photo by MyAsMoMmY5

Meet MyAsMoMmY5, mom to 11-month-old Tatiana and 3-year-old Mya

How old were you when you had your first baby?
I had my first daughter one month after my 16th birthday. I had my second daughter when I was 18.

What did you like about having a baby at that age?
I'd say the advantages are having energy to keep up with my kids and having motivation to better myself.

Were there any downsides to having a baby at that time in your life?
Definitely, school was a challenge, but I guess it would be at any age. Also, the negative attitude of others associated with my being a teen mother.

Meet women who became moms in their twenties, moms in their thirties, and moms in their forties.

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luvba... luvbabies3

I was 16 with my first baby and he has turned out to be one of my greatest acomplishments!! I now have 3 boys all together and they are the greatest joys of my life!! having a baby at any age is a blessing!!

1stti... 1sttimemommy198

I have a 1 year old son with another one on the way, I am only 22....so I can tell you right now, that having a baby at any age is hard, but wonderful

joyfu... joyfullem

I was 17 one month away from being 18.  I was married  had been married for a long while and was well off

boyzx4 boyzx4

I was 15 when I had my first son. Having a baby at any age is a challenge in the beginning but well worth it!

Audly... AudlyLuvly

i was 15 when i got pregnant, 16 when i delivered and my daughter saved my life....

Cafe... Cafe MicheleZ

This is such a great piece! Thanks to the moms who shared a part of their story with us.

Peajewel Peajewel

I was 21 with my first and 39 with my second.  I have been both a younger Mom and and older Mom.  I agree there are advantages to and disadvantages to both.  I think age does not matter one bit, it matters what kind of Mom  you are. 

chell... chelle1201

I was 17 when I had my oldest.

MarGeee MarGeee

I think you should save this for when your older like early to late twenties,you dont realize how much of your youth you miss when you have to have a child. I've seen young teens with babies and most of them dont seem to take responsibility,I see them dump them off on thier moms or grandparents or whoever can take care of their child and its pretty sad and disappointing,especially when they go out and party.So I encourage all teens to stay away from having kids till your more responsible!

MarGeee MarGeee

Please dont take offense this is just my view point because I've witnessed this in my side of the world. Maybe this is just something that happens more often in Utah.

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