Parents Forced to Choose Between Their Home & Their Baby

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baby and gamesAny parent will tell you that the first few months at home with a new baby are a bit on the challenging side (to say the least), and that's why it's best to keep your stress level to a minimum and avoid doing things that might shake up your life -- like moving.

But one couple from Canada obviously doesn't have much of a choice, because they're being forced out of their home because they have a baby now.

Thandi Schweitzer and Deb Rousseau have owned their condo for six years, and it just happens to be an adults-only building. And even though they knew when they decided it was time for a baby that they were living in a place that "doesn't allow" anyone under the age of 19, they really didn't think too much of it.

And why would they? As it turns out, other people with kids had been breaking the rules for years, and no one ever said a damn thing about it.

But now they've been told they have six months to either move out of the building, get rid of the baby (which I'm guessing isn't an option), or risk being taken to the Supreme Court if they refuse to vacate.

And Thandi admits they feel completely torn and says, "It’s give up your home or give up your child."

Ok, so normally I'd probably side with the building and say something along the lines of, "They knew it was an adults-only pad when they moved in, and they should've made plans to move out before they brought a baby into the mix."

But after hearing that other parents have lived in the same complex with their children and have never been given a problem, I'm definitely siding with the couple. I mean, what's the point of having rules if you're only going to enforce them at certain times, and on certain people?

If other residents weren't given the same ultimatum, then they shouldn't be either.

Although, if I were either Thandi or Deb, I'm not sure that I'd be too keen on staying in a place that frowns upon children even if they manage to get past the bylaw and are permitted to stay in their home. There are plenty of other places where they can live happily with their little one without having others turn their noses up to them or accuse them of being rule breakers. (Of course, that would mean they have to find a buyer for their unit, which is kind of a challenge these days.)

Ugh. Can moms ever win?

Do you think this couple should be forced to move out, and if you were them, would you consider staying for one second?


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Histo... HistoryMamaX3

It doesn't matter if others have broken the rule before them- it is what it is and they should have moved away before the baby came. Simple as that... they knew. Sucks to be held accountable for your actions sometimes, but such is life.

purvi... purvislets

They knew the rules and the consequences.  Saying "Well, so-and-so has gotten away with it.  Why not me?" doesn't change that fact.  It's a bit concerning to me that they are even "torn".  I know they wouldn't literally choose their home over their child, but the fact that they aren't just owning up to breaking the agreement they had with their condo is a bit childish.  They had to know this was a possibility.

dirti... dirtiekittie

after reading the original article, it appears that this couple was not the only ones singled out. another family is also mentioned, having been told that they also have to move (with their 2 year old). i had originally thought that maybe these two women were being singled out for being gay, but it appears that the board really has just decided that they will enforce their 'age-restriction bylaws'. i'm wondering if the building was taken over by new management, or if there was some other reason why they suddenly started enforcing it? all i know is that if i felt like these families do (sneaking in and out of their own place, not being able to hold/attend block parties) i'd be finding a new place to live pronto.

(and in truth - maybe some of the tenants complained because they wanted a child free living area as they signed on board for, and too many complaints became hard to ignore. while i agree that the parents saw other people slide by "for years" as they put it, it doesn't change the fact that childless people also purchased condos in this area with the expectation it would be child free. should they just look the other way, when they may have paid just as much or more for their condos? i'm not anti family, just considering both sides of it here.)

elle7777 elle7777

I find it bizarre a young couple who thought kids might ever be a possibility would choose to move into an explicitly kids free condo. I'm not really feeling bad for them, though I think It's strange other families supposedly weren't given a hard time. I'm sure in end there will be some legal loophole that allows them to stay.

elle7777 elle7777

I didn't notice they were gay before. Maybe the straw that broke the proverbial camels back was the fact that it was obvious being they were two women they intentionally thumbed their nose at the law. A hetero couple could pretend the baby was an accident, they obviously could not.

jalaz77 jalaz77

Little drastic to say "...give up your child." They knew the rules. So what of others have gotten away with it. I don't feel for these people. Same goes for the idiots that live in a HOA and break rules. People are fools to think they can get by with breaking the rules.

MomLi... MomLily67

Condo life has lots of rules, and though it sucks, they knew about that rule.

purpl... purpleflower514

They knew the rules when they bought the condo/

Blues... Blueshark77

Agree with everyone else, they knew the rules when buying the condo.  Time to put it up for sale and move somewhere family friendly. 


tuffy... tuffymama

It's the entitlement that bugs me. Why do they think they should be allowed to shirk the rules?

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