At just 20, Teen Mom 2 star Leah Messer is about to become a mom for the THIRD time. She is expecting a girl with her husband Jeremy Calvert and says she is in a very different place than the first time when she gave birth to twins Aliannah and Aleeah.
Now she is a grown up, married, and expecting her third baby. And it's another girl. Obviously, this is great news. A healthy baby is always, always, always the goal.
But let's also be serious. I know very few moms of two same sex kids who didn't have the third largely because they wanted the experience of both sexes. On some level, somewhere in her head, she might be slightly disappointed.
Most people don't talk about it and I am sure the comments here will be full of "you should be happy no matter what you get" and "having a sex preference is terrible." But many people do.
I did. I wanted three girls (yes, really). When I found out my second was a boy, I was slightly disappointed. I was scared. I had no idea what to do with a baby of the male persuasion. Now, four years later, I am thrilled with my boy. I feel blessed and lucky to have had the opportunity to parent my daughter AND my son. Having one of each actually IS really cool.
As someone who grew up with just a sister, my family was definitely skewed female. My husband grew up with just a brother, so his family skewed male. I can totally understand why people might keep trying and trying just to get that underrepresented sex.
None of this means a third girl is loved any less (come on, now), but it's OK to have a moment or two to regroup and admit a little disappointment. It's not against the law to have a sex preference.
Maybe I am wrong. Maybe she wants a family of 10 girls and has no sadness at all. If I were having a third girl, I wouldn't! But most people I know who have a third had the first two genders be the same. They "went for" the third in an attempt to balance the family sexes. There is nothing wrong with that.
Congratulations to Leah either way. Having any healthy baby who is wanted and welcomed into a loving family is a blessing. Good for them!
Did you have all the same gender babies? Did you mind?
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