Parents Have Another Baby to Save Their Dying Son: Would You?

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baby feetWhen Brooke and Paul welcomed their baby boy, Jasper, into the world, they were overjoyed and elated just like any new parents would be. And even though their new son was born premature because he wasn't developing properly in the womb, they hoped for the best after his birth.

Unfortunately, Jasper continued to grow at a slower rate than normal, but his physicians just couldn't seem to get to the bottom of what was slowing down his growth. Doctors ran test after test after test -- and then just after he started kindergarten, they finally reached a diagnosis. Jasper has something called Fanconi anaemia, which is a genetic disorder that ultimately leads to cancer. Most patients with the disease don't live past 30 years old.

And the worst part is, there is no cure, and the only thing that would possibly save Jasper is a bone marrow transplant.

But with it being incredibly difficult to find a donor match after being put on a transplant list, Jasper's parents realized they were at a crossroads -- especially after learning that umbilical cord blood from a sibling was the most likely match for someone with his disorder.

Jasper was Brooke and Paul's first baby -- so I'm sure you can guess where things went from here. They weighed the pros and cons over having another baby simply in the hopes of saving Jasper's life -- all while knowing there was a possibility that their second child could be born with Fanconi anaemia too.

As it turns out, Brooke wound up becoming pregnant before they went through with IVF to conceive. And when Jasper's baby sister, Molly, was born, she turned out to be a perfect match for the bone marrow transplant, and thankfully, she does not have Fanconi anaemia.

There won't be an actual transplant until Jasper tests positive for bone marrow failure. And when he does -- he'll credit his little sister's cord blood with saving his life.

And after hearing this story, I asked myself the question of whether or not I'd consider having another baby if it meant saving my own son's life. The answer came to me in a matter of seconds -- yes, of COURSE I would.

Yeah, yeah -- I know it's kind of controversial to have another kid for the sake of trying to save the one you already have, but I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I knew having another baby could provide him with a shot at a happy life -- and I didn't at least try. I can't imagine my life without that little boy, and I'd do ANYTHING, yes ANYTHING if it meant keeping him here on this earth with me.

And of course, any baby is a miracle no matter how you look at it, so even if the main reason for having another child was to save my first, it would still be another human being that I would love unconditionally and do exactly the same thing for if he/she were sick, and so on and so forth.

Honestly, I don't know how any parent can even question this one.

Do you agree? Or do you think having another child in the hopes of saving a sibling is too risky?

 

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fleur... fleurdelys3110

This is right out of the novel My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Piccoult. This, in my opinion, is completely unethical. However, I cannot say for sure whether I would do it or not as I am not in the position.

ilove... ilovemy4kiddies

I don't see anything wrong with it at all. To me it would be miraculous to not only save the life of my immediate child but to be blessed to have another child to love. I would do it in a heartbeat!

fave82 fave82

I've read that book! If it was just for cord blood, then definitely. After all, id still love and adore the new baby just as much as the first. However, i would not repeatedly put the child through surgeries etc, basically using it for spare parts, just to save the first. That's not fair and lessons its quality of life.

dearg76 dearg76

I agree with Ilovemy4kiddies. I don't see anything wrong with it - I would view having another child as a miracle. I really do believe I would do it also. I don't think this is unethical it's not like they were going to have another one just to save the 1st and then give the 2nd away. 

kerwo... kerwolfe712

Since he wouldn't need the transplant for several years and it uses cord blood, rather than an actual transplant, then yes, I would.  They waited several years and had a second child, something many parents do.  Their newborn daughter will not undergo any painful procedures, they simply saved the cord instead of throwing it out as medical waste, and she will grow up knowing that the simple fact of her birth helped her brother to live a longer life.  

JessL... JessLogansMommy

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the baby doesn't have to undergo many medical procedures that decrease quality of life.  I'm not done having children, so if a blessing could be come a double blessing i'd be all for it. 

laure... laurenemb

So, fleurdelys, at the end of the day if all goes according to plan, they have a beautiful healthy boy who they'll treasure forever after coming so close to losing him, and a beautiful, healthy girl who will always be a savior to her entire family? Oh yeah, happy endings that bond a family in an unfathomable amount of love and devotion sounds COMPLETELY unethical.

amazz... amazzonia

I wold have done the same thing, is not that they were having another baby so that the fetus of the second baby wold save the life of the first, they needed the cord of the sibling, and is what happened, the two will be magically bonded together for the rest of their lives

nonmember avatar Lilac

If the parents wanted a second child to begin with then yes I see no harm in using the umbilical cord blood. However if they never wanted a second child or only had her for say liver, kidneys or heart transplants, as spare parts as it were, to the son that would be horrific.

xiolxuo xiolxuo

I'm sorry but that's completely unethical and honestly disgusting. You bring a baby into the world to love and expand your family, not to use as a dummy to take bits and pieces from.

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