10 Rude Things New Moms Say to In-Laws

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baby in bathYesterday, we talked about the rude things in-laws say to new moms. And hot dog, did lots of you have opinions. So today, we decided to flip the script. Side with the in-laws. Because, after all, at the end of the day, the things our in-laws say to us come from a good place. Most of the time.

Here are 10 rude things new moms say to their-laws.

I can't believe you did X back then. I would never do that. Different times, different people. Lord knows what things you're doing now that will shock your daughter-in-law some day.

Let me do it. Fact: Nobody knows your baby like you. But they're just trying to help. And your child will be fine in your mother-in-law's arms for a half hour.

I could have never been a stay-at-home mom like you. Oof, that's going for the jugular.

Are you sorry you went back to work and missed your kids growing up? Possibly even worse.

I can't believe you didn't breastfeed. Now that's just mean. Surely, your MIL did what she thought was best for her kids.

I can't believe you breastfed for that long. Again, different strokes.

Son/Daughter was fine just a minute ago. Sometimes, babies cry when you pass them along to somebody else. And it can get awkward. No need to make the person feel bad about it.

Just gimme her/him. If baby's crying goes on and on, sure, take him or her back. But give your mother/father-in-law a minute -- just think of how excited you'll be to hold your grandchild.

Did you wash your hands? This is one I'm definitely guilty of. Odds are, your in-laws, or anybody for that matter, won't go to grab your baby after they've been playing in a pile of used hypodermic needles. And if they do, never, ever let them hold your kid.

You're doing it wrong. Immortalized in the movie Mr. Mom, and something nobody wants to hear.

Have you ever said anything rude to your in-laws? Share with the class.

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JLCrunch JLCrunch

Guilty but in my defense it's a two way street. I get criticized for not abiding by some rather stale techniques and I gently criticize for those very same opinions and suggestions. A good example is my and my mother's discussion on cloth diapering. She laughed at me, predicting that I'd be disgusted and wouldn't stick with it, I pointed out that the new diapers are specifically designed for ease and convenience not the prehistoric flats, pins and and plastic pants that she's accustomed to. Not that there is anything wrong with going old school but it can be rather tedious,

In my opinion It's give and take. Being a little possessive over your own child is inevitable especially if you have a routine and the other person refuses to abide by it.

Wendy Hanson

I think asking people to wash their hands before handling a baby is reasonable.  My FIL does not wash his hands when he goes to the bathroom.  I feel like asking him to wash his hands before entering the house!

doodledo doodledo

Asking people to wash their hands before touching your baby is not rude. What is rude are people who lack the basic common sense to wash their hands before touching a baby.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

Saying you could never by a sahm isn't going for the jugular, it's admitting your inadequacies.

Honestly I never had any trouble with my MIL. My FIL was more of an issue, every time I saw him he had more articles about how I was stunting his grandchild growth by not feeding him meat. Never mind that many authorities who do favor meat still say no meat till after 12 months, he was convinced. I just gave him accurate information and let him chew it over. Once he realized that I do in fact know what I'm talking about he quit it.

douxm... douxmusique

Yeah the hand washing thing isn't rude and chances are grandma just had her hands elbow deep in chicken and didn't wash. Happens a lot.

Haley Maya Unger

Yep. I was dealing with the hormones after having her and the inlaws decided to come for a visit from Wisconsin anyway, I told them it was a bad time but those words fell on deaf ears. The stress messed up my milk production and eventually I lost it and I don't remember the exact wording BUT I know there were a lot of four letter ones that came out.


All I can do is say I warned them and hormones are crazy.

iicar... iicarmerin

I would not be comfortable saying most of these things to my MIL. My sister in laws have however said these things and worse to my mother so seeing how much it hurts her I wouldn't want to hurt my mil's feelings like that.

Meg Moore

asking people to wash their hands is not rude..many people are under the impression they don't have germs.

Desti... DestinyHLewis

Guilty. But my MIL IS THE DEVIL. seriously. When I had my first I his in my room after she came home from a 5 month stay in the hospital. The last person I wanted around her was my MIL. somewhere in my postpartum mind I swore her stupidity would somehow leak out into my daughter. Lol

nonmember avatar Em

Omg, taking your baby back when they are crying is NOT rude. That is asinine.

If my baby is crying I will take him. In laws or anyone else can hold baby again later. Baby needing mommy overrides anyone else's feelings every time.

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