6 Rude Things In-Laws Say to New Moms

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nicole fabian-weberIt's pretty well-known that there are a litany of things no pregnant woman wants to hear. But did you know that there are some things no new mom wants to hear either? Sure, your heart is in the right place, but some statements and questions come off as annoying. Or rude. Or intrusive. Or all of the above.

Here are 6 things never to say to a new mom. (We're looking at you, in-laws!)

When are you having another one? Seriously? Are you really asking that already? 'Cause I thought I'd enjoy my child -- who hasn't even been alive for a year! -- a bit. And what's the big rush anyway? When you're dating, it's "when are you going to get married?" When you get married, it's "when are you going to have kids?" And then when you have a kid, it's "when are you going to have another?" Sheesh. Slow your roll.

Cherish every moment. He/she will be grown up before you know it. Thanks. I didn't realize time was going by at lightning speed right now -- and way to put a sad spin on things!

My kids are everything. I could have never gone back to work. Hmm. Well, my child is my everything, too. But I also do have goals of my own still, sooo guess we're at an impasse.

I could have never been a stay-at-home mom. I'd have gotten so bored. Here's one of the coolest things about the world: We're all different!

(When baby's crying) Why don't you try XYZ? Babies cry. It's what they do. Usually, these suggestions come from a good place, but at the end of the day, no one knows their baby like mama. So, maybe just leave the soothing, etc. up to the parents.

When I had a baby, we did things differently. A classic in-law thing to say. Things are different now. I'm sure you didn't do things exactly like your parents did.

What annoying things have people said to you?

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Nolanzo Nolanzo

Why are you breastfeeding? Put that baby on formula! Why are you not feeding him cereal and baby food yet? You're going to starve him! Why on earth are you bothering with cloth diapers when disposables are so much easier? Blah blah blah blah blah it never stops.


She never cries if you're not around.

nonmember avatar Happydad

And nobody wants to hear the new mom say how advanced/smart/genius their baby is because he managed to roll over by the time he was two. Or how she would NEVER let her baby have this or that. Or how she should be given preference because, gasp, she is the mother of a baby, apparently some kind of super woman. Get over yourself and stop being so sensitive.

iicar... iicarmerin

"baby is crying because he's hungry." Because babies don't cry for any other reason.

nonmember avatar JustVisiting

"Oh, she's so pretty but she looks like you." Thanks... WhAt?! I can laugh about it now though!

Nellie Athome

Ms Fabien-Weber - I sincerely hope you do not teach your child/ren to be as intolerant and hypersensitive as your column makes you appear.

nonmember avatar Karen

What is it with in-laws? My mom says some dumb things but my MIL (who NEVER sees her grandson) has all sorts of comments when she does see him & I have to refrain from just smacking her upside her head & not loving every second. LOL

Melissa Lynn-moorefield Myers

my MIL came to visit us in TX after our second son was born, he had very bad colic well we were giving BM and Formula she said oh let me fix this problem you just need to add rice or ceral to the formula all the time and put HONEY in the milk to sooth him. I freaked out and never left him alone with one esp her. The bottle of HONEY says don't give to a child under the age of 2 and you shouldn't give ceral or rice to a baby at 4 weeks old I am a nurse and this is my second son. 

2tryi... 2trying2be3

You're still nursing? (When my daughter was 3 months old)

nonmember avatar Maxine Cockle

Get a grip gals! You'll be doing the same to the next generation if not before!

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