Mom Whose Baby Desperately Needed a Heart Once Refused to Donate Her Own Child's Organs

organ donorWhen you are the mom of a new baby, the last thing in the world you want to think about is organ donation. After all, who thinks about the end of life at the beginning of a new one? But it's a thought mother Shelley Wealleans wishes we would all have.

Wealleans has the tragic story of being on both sides of this. First she was a mother who lost her 3-month-old child and didn't donate his organs. Then she was the mother of the baby who needed a transplant to live and couldn't get one. Losing two babies is horrendous, something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. But Wealleans and her husband are turning their sorrow into activism by trying to get others to think about organ donation even for their little babies.

It's a macabre thought I can barely have when I think about my precious 4-year-old and 5-year-old.

Just yesterday we were in a park where we stumbled upon a memorial for a 16-year-old kid who died in a motorcycle accident. My kids were full of questions, and this morning my son asked if he died, if we would make a memorial like that for him. It was all I could do not to vomit.

For parents, there is simply not a more frightening thought than losing our children. We live in fear of the idea and can't think about it. So it's no wonder so few of us make our children organ donors.

I know I am one. I know my husband is one. But our kids? No. No. No. Perish the thought.

But maybe I should think differently. As a mom I do know that if I ever did lose a child (God forbid), I would want his or her life to have meaning and to help someone else live their life. Often there isn't the time to think about organ donation in the moment, when you are losing a child. So why not think about it while there is still time? Why not make babies organ donors when they are first born?

It almost makes me sick to write. It almost makes me sick to think. But it is a reality. Even in life, we know we will all die. So why not think about that ahead of time.

Have you ever thought about baby organ donation?


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cmjaz cmjaz

I would donate (God forbid) my sons internal organs but not external. Not his beautiful blue eyes or baby skin. I wouldn't be able to handle that.

Venae Venae

Absolutely - take everything - you aren't going to need it laying in the ground or when you're cremated.  You can save so many lives!!

Just think if no one donated baby/children organs, all those babies/children would die.  People want organs for their sick child, but won't donate their dead child's parts.  Hypocrisy.

Rosas... RosasMummy

I would donate my daughters organs without hesitation, I don't really understand why more parents don't think that way, there doesn't even seem much of a decision to make to me. Do I save some child's life as the final act of my own child or do I let that child die? It just seems like a no brainer

Mommi... MommietoJB

I think its one thing to say yes I would donate my baby or childs organs in an hypothetical situation but to be in that actual moment, I dont know if I would. It makes logical sense your baby is going to die so lets not waste this chance to save another childs life. But emotion would be a big factor also.

nanaf nanaf

When you are actually in the situation where your child is dying, organ donation may be the furthest from your mind.  Having lost a child, I wish I had been approached or thought to make the offer to help another child.  Life goes on...

zandh... zandhmom2

I have spoken to both of my kids when they were younger if this is something they would want to do.  I don't see anything sickening about having this conversation with your kids.  I have lost two people in my life who were wanting on organs so this subject is very close to me.  I wanted to my kids to have the final say so I explained to them why it is important to donate and they both said that they would want to save another persons life if they could.

Jenniy Jenniy

I want to say absolutely I would donate, but I've never been in that situation so I don't know what my mindset would be. I hope I'd have the mindset of donate to help save other kids.

early... earlybird11

I remember having to make the call on donating my grandmas eyes. It was a sickening thought but necessary

Torra... TorranceMom

I'd donate every usable part. Like @ Venae said, what good will it do your child (or anyone for that matter) rotting in the ground or burned to ash?

Senia... Seniahmom

Of course I would! I don't see how I couldn't. It's something my husband and I already discussed (should one or the other, God forbid, have to make that decision solo). A friend of ours who passed recently was so small of frame she was awaiting a transfer from a child (which prompted the discussion). We agreed that should it come to pass, we would donate our children's organs as freely as our own.

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