20 Qualities of a Good Mom

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qualities of a good momI started thinking about the things that make us moms, and the very unique qualities we must possess to be great moms. As we know, life changes a lot when we have kids, and we change ... yet we still are the same person. It's a fascinating and beautiful journey we take to parenthood, and along the way we learn so much, not just about our kids, but ourselves.

I asked the moms I knew to share the qualities they feel makes a good mom. They told it like it is -- here is what makes us awesome.

  1. Always offering your love. Gives lots of hugs.
  2. Trying to see things from your kid's point of view. Asking their opinion whenever it's possible or appropriate.
  3. Patience. And then more patience on top of that.
  4. Setting boundaries, lest you end up with little monsters who walk all over you.
  5. Giving unconditional love.
  6. Having one on one time with each kid. If you have one child, making sure you have solo time with that child, too.
  7. Learning that discipline is a good thing -- gentle non violent discipline. When you say no, mean it. That way, you're not raising brats.
  8. When you bring a new life into the world, they should be your top priority, and know it. It's a great way to raise up a strong, self-assured, confident person.
  9. Be their parent, not their friend, for the first 18 years or so. Then you'll be their best friend for the rest of your lives when they hit about 20 and suddenly get what you did for them. It's pretty awesome.
  10. Be willing to get peed, pooped, and vomited upon.
  11. Having a sense of humor.
  12. Balance.
  13. Making sure you always do the best you can, admit when you're not, learn to do better, and follow through.
  14. Being able to survive harsh conditions. All kinds of harsh conditions.
  15. Relaxing a little.
  16. Not freaking out about doing things perfectly or according to what everyone else says.
  17. Getting some time away, so you can come back an even better parent.
  18. Thinking first before you yell or hit, or learn to live with regret.
  19. Baby-proofing really well so you don't have to say 'No' all the time when they get into things they shouldn't.
  20. Always letting your children know when they do a good job.

What do you think? What other qualities would you add?

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Rache... RachelAndAlanna

I like this, but I wish you'd change the title to parent, instead of just mom.

momof... momof1teengirl

Awesome list.  Except for the baby-proofing.  I vote for minimal baby-proofing, and saying "no".  When little ones visit other homes, public areas, etc. they are not always baby-proofed.  They need to learn to stay away, not touch, etc.  If you go overboard on baby-proofing, they get no chance to learn.


Todd Vrancic

Apologize when you are wrong.  It teaches them that we are only human.  And the title should be parent, not mom.  Dads should not get an award just for showing up once in a while.

Strai... StraightShooter

Setting boundaries is a huge one...but more importantly is following up when they cross those boundaries.  No matter how you choose to discipline, FOLLOW THROUGH, with consequences!!  Witnessing a parent threatening a child and then not following through causes me to want to sock said parent right in they eye.  Especially if that child is being an out of control brat.

Rosas... RosasMummy

Giving your child lots of stimulus and different activities to learn from and enjoy.

Reading with them!

Create a home life which makes them feel secure and happy.

Have fun with them.

Today I got into an argument with my parents and fiancé about the amount of caffeine I drink, got really defensive and was shouting pretty much, I didn't even notice that my two year old daughter was by my side saying 'stop it mummy!' dIdnt even notice, I feel like I've failed. I want to cry

doodl... doodlebut

We didn't baby proof either, we just told them no and after a few times they learned not to touch!

jessi... jessicasmom1

Yes the words of No, or Ouch DD learned early in life I had no troubles with her

teddy... teddysmama09

Great list, but i agree with others about the baby proofing. It's much better to teach children boundries. The only drawer which hass a lock on it is under the sink where we have the garbage and cleaning supplies, otherwise I keep safe items (tupperwear, unopened pasta etc) at their level so they can explore and stay busy while I'm busy in the kitchen. We only kept the stairs blocked until DS was old enough to go up and down safely on his own at about 18 months .I spent a great deal of time teaching him how to use the stairs, raather than just shouting "NO!!" when he went near them, that way I felt sure that he would be safe if he were at someones house who didn't have a stair gate..

amazz... amazzonia

Is better to teach them instead of child proofing so when they go to other people's houses they know what or what not to do

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