It Takes HOW Long to Adjust to Motherhood?!

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nicole fabian-weber
Do you "get" me now?
Becoming a mom for the first time. Let's discuss it. And how holy shit nothing can prepare you for it. You think you have a general idea about babies -- I mean, you've held a baby. Once. And she was sleeping. But then your son or daughter comes into the world and takes everything you thought you knew about being a parent and throws it back in your face in the form of a giant poop-filled diaper. It takes a while to get the hang of things. Or at least at seems like a long time.

A new study just revealed specifically -- very specifically -- how long it takes to get out of the "incomprehensible confusion" of the beginning of motherhood and into the swing of things like a veteran parent. It may sound like a long time on paper, but really, it isn't so bad. Plus, you're sleep-deprived as hell -- do you even know what day it is?

According to the baby brand, Munchkin, it takes 4 months and 23 days to get used to being a mom. And as someone who's closing in on the fifth month here, I whole-heartedly concur.

When my daughter was first born, people kept telling me that 3 months was the "magic number" -- the point at which babies really change. And they were right. My baby seemed to "wake up" a little before 12 weeks. She could much more easily identify people and smile, and coo, etc. She wasn't quite as helpless and oh-my-god-I-feel-like-I-might-break-her-ish as she was when she was first born. That, for me, was the beginning of really gaining confidence as a mom. I didn't feel as much like a teenager "playing house." But even then, it wasn't like I was changing diapers with one hand while breastfeeding and teaching my baby sign-language with the other. In public. (Because I'm totally doing that now.)

Although I had much more confidence with myself as a mother at around 3 months, I realized something shortly thereafter: My daughter kept changing. Every day, she seemed to be into something new. She would feed in a different way; make new noises; start rolling on over to her stomach in her sleep. And with each new thing she did, I would scratch my head a bit, worry of course, and then adjust to it. And that's when I realized -- yep, at around 4 months -- that babies simply change all the time. You just have to go with it. And it's easier to "just go with it" then, because other things -- like breastfeeding and baby sleep -- have hopefully gotten easier at that point.

Last night my daughter, who -- knock wood -- usually sleeps through the night, started crying (really crying) at around 2:00 in the morning. My husband and I were definitely startled and a bit caught off guard, but we didn't really think twice. We just went in and soothed her (teething!) without much thought or production, and that was that. We all just went back to bed. That would have never happened that smoothly a few months ago.

When did you start getting used to motherhood?


Image via Nicole Fabian-Weber

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NatAndCo NatAndCo

I'm 9.5 months in to motherhood and i can safely say it is still a strange, bizarre world to me. I spent 5 minutes yesterday trying to desperately dislodge a booger from my sons nose and then couldn't understand why it was so damn important.

MomLi... MomLily67

adaptation is relative....

nonmember avatar Dee

My son's almost 16 and I'm still working on it. It's as the writer said, every time you get into a groove, a new stage is around the corner!

jalaz77 jalaz77

3 kids with a 4th on the way, still not adjusted! LOL!

Ahavah85 Ahavah85

Adapting? When you're a stay at home parent and your husband has the mentality of a caveman when it comes to helping with the dishes, I would say it takes longer than a little over four months. My little guy is almost eight months old and I'm still not 100% there.

nonmember avatar Joie

Still pregnant for another 4 or so weeks...I don't know if I will ever fully be adapted to being a mom! I am 32 and I think my mom still is trying to figure ME out! :)

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