Immigrant Moms Know More About Nurturing Than We Do

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lunaOut of the following moms in America, native-born white moms, immigrant Chinese moms, and Mexican immigrant moms, guess who is the most nurturing? Mexican moms are! A study compared the parenting styles of all three groups and it looks like the Mexican immigrant moms came out on top.

It turns out that Mexican moms provided a "more warm and supportive home setting," argue less with their spouses, and show stronger mental health than white, native-born Americans and Chinese-Americans. So does that make them better moms?

I guess it depends on what you think matters most in mothering. Unfortunately, Mexican moms read to their kids less. Uh oh, no tiger moms here, apparently. But despite that, I think helping your child feel loved and secure is the most important thing a parent can do.

Well, I would. I'm the daughter of a Mexican mom. Actually, she's half Mexican, half Puerto Rican, and she was born in the US (her mother was born in Mexico). But I do think we were raised in a very warm and supportive home setting. Except when we were getting spanked! My mom played both sides in our family. She was strict and could lose her temper. But she was also loving, encouraging, always into what we were doing. We really got the sense that we mattered to her.

Ideally we all borrow from each other -- and I guess that's what immigrant families do after a generation or two. Hopefully we're keeping what makes Mexican children (and families) strong and adding what can also make them smart and well-prepared for competitive American life.

Are you surprised that Mexican immigrant moms are more nurturing than white American moms?


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Jaime Swift Sundin

Wow Mexican moms, or would you prefer using the term Hispanic mothers because to me saying mexican is just racist.

Bertha21 Bertha21

Wow.... So much bashing in the comments. If you don't agree with this article don't bash Mexicans.... That is so rude! I agree with this study! It wasn't saying Mexicans who were born here, it was saying immigrant Mexicans. There is a HUGE difference between the two!!! If you are raised in America then the culture you are raised in is completely different. Immigrant Mexican mothers are way more nurturing because of the culture. Mexican mothers raised in the US aren't as nurturing.

the4m... the4mutts

Hahahaa how stupid.

I'm raising 3 hispanic children, & one white one. What kind of family category to we fall into, huh? Pft.

Studies based on race for anything other than medical/economical reasons, are written with an agenda in mind.

the4m... the4mutts

Oh, and my ex-husband *father of 3 older kids* is an immigrant who JUST became a citizen last year, 3 years after we divorced. So we had a household with 3 mixed-heritage children, 1native born white american, and 1immigrant hispanic.

Our economic status was statistically higher than families with hispanic members, and we're both college educated. We also live in a predominately white & hispanic town, not as many other races.

These studies don't take that kind of stuff into account when producing their "results".

Mikia Brigham

Just another bogus "study" to divide women. Instead of appreciating what women bring to the table as a whole, they have to try to put one particular race on a pedestal and what happens? Others who aren't included begin to tear them down and say ugly things, and no one wins. We are such a powerful force when we are able to come together and find common ground. This is just another agenda to keep women divided.

nonmember avatar Cee

Racism all over the comments. Sooo many stereotypes and generalizations all due because your race was not selected as the best one. The study was stupid but the comments here are embarassing!

Ashley Howard

Too all of you trying to make this about race... IT'S NOT, it's about culture. Do I believe that women in some cultures are more nurturing than women here (in general)? YES.

Ashley Howard

Facebook comment from Jaime Swift Sundin
on Sep 13, 2012 at 10:23 AM

"Wow Mexican moms, or would you prefer using the term Hispanic mothers because to me saying mexican is just racist."


That would only be offensive if she was referring to all Hispanics as Mexican, she's not! She's talking about Mexican immigrants, not Chileans, not Nicaraguans, etc... Just like the study also looked at Chinese immigrants, not Asian immigrants! Mexico has a culture and identity all it's own... saying that all Hispanics share one culture is much more offensive/ignorant.

Janet Hamilton Seidlitz

Never generalize about anybody's culture. These studies are usually done with considerable thought and care. It was done to help people better understand the whys and hows of different cultural upbringings - which all have strengths and weakenesses that can help us be better human beings.

the4m... the4mutts

Omg, the disagrement comments aren't about racial/cultural jealousy. Its about bogus results and skewed viewpoints being used to try and soften people to immigration. If it were about culture, they would have studied people in their "native habitats".

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