Immigrant Moms Know More About Nurturing Than We Do

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lunaOut of the following moms in America, native-born white moms, immigrant Chinese moms, and Mexican immigrant moms, guess who is the most nurturing? Mexican moms are! A study compared the parenting styles of all three groups and it looks like the Mexican immigrant moms came out on top.

It turns out that Mexican moms provided a "more warm and supportive home setting," argue less with their spouses, and show stronger mental health than white, native-born Americans and Chinese-Americans. So does that make them better moms?

I guess it depends on what you think matters most in mothering. Unfortunately, Mexican moms read to their kids less. Uh oh, no tiger moms here, apparently. But despite that, I think helping your child feel loved and secure is the most important thing a parent can do.

Well, I would. I'm the daughter of a Mexican mom. Actually, she's half Mexican, half Puerto Rican, and she was born in the US (her mother was born in Mexico). But I do think we were raised in a very warm and supportive home setting. Except when we were getting spanked! My mom played both sides in our family. She was strict and could lose her temper. But she was also loving, encouraging, always into what we were doing. We really got the sense that we mattered to her.

Ideally we all borrow from each other -- and I guess that's what immigrant families do after a generation or two. Hopefully we're keeping what makes Mexican children (and families) strong and adding what can also make them smart and well-prepared for competitive American life.

Are you surprised that Mexican immigrant moms are more nurturing than white American moms?

 

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Susie19 Susie19

Hmmm...Idk how I feel about this one.  My mom is also Mexican and she's a great mom, but we're a lot closer now than when I was a child, which is weird...I guess it really depends. 


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Refur... Refurbished

There are plenty of moms of my own race who are completely different mothers than I am -- and you can find them right here on Cafemom.  Race doesn't dictate how you parent your child.  The study itself sounds like they people conducting it had a racist agenda. 

Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

I don't think any particular race is better at parenting. I think it's the individual parent. I've seen plenty of terrible Mexican moms who could care less about the welfare of their children. Same with all the other races. It's not the group, it's the individual that should take credit for good parenting.

Histo... HistoryMamaX3

I think it is a very slippery slope looking at racial/cultural statistics. It might be great to look at the highlights, but you'd be mighty pissed off when someone claims that Mexican women are supposedly terrible at [fill in the blank].


When it is touting the good stuff, we're all for it. Then turn right around and downplay the opposite as though it has no merit. You can't have it both ways.

Nolanzo Nolanzo

This whole notion is bunk. There are good moms and great moms and shitty moms and whatever moms across race lines. I lived in the Little Mexico section of a large city for 8+ years and used to see babies being being slapped so hard by their mothers you'd have thought they were grown adults... but that happens in any neighborhood in the US if you look hard enough. Race has nothing to do with it.

nonmember avatar shelly

Yeah...not where I live. I live in a city where white folks, are the complete minority. My entire street, is mostly Mexican immigrants. All I see are parents who shove their kids out the door, so they don't have to deal with them. I have actually called the cops, because i see 2 year olds wandering with their 5 and under siblings. I hear screaming, see pushing, neglect, all kinds of bda things. In fact, I see pretty crappy parenting. I'd like to know what Mexican moms they interviewed, because I see pathetic moms daily.

nonmember avatar blh

Pfft. My friend is dating a Mexican and she said they all give thier children pop constantly and don't use carseats. Sounds wonderful.

bills... billsfan1104

I bet if this study said that white moms were better moms, you would scream racism. Another thing to add to the mommy wars. I live in farm country, where there are a lot of migrant workers from Mexico, and believe me they are not all the nurturing. For the part about not arguing with their husband, many Mexican women are the homemakers and believe the men are the head of the household. Thats why my ex and I never worked out. He believed that I had to do what he said.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

I'm an immigrant and a naturalized white American. Clearly this study means I'm the most awesome mom ever. Eh, I'll take it.

nonmember avatar maggiemae

Yeah, Mexican moms nurture the baby for 9 long months...until they have another one, then the older eight get kicked to the curb. That's why the 14-year olds are having babies...

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