'TIME's Breastfeeding Mom Milks Her Fame With Another Controversial Cover (PHOTO)

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Jamie Lynne Grumet Breastfeeding momRemember the mom who took the mommy wars to the cover of TIME Magazine back in May with that photo of her toddler son breastfeeding while standing on a chair? Jamie Lynne Grumet is baaaaack! This time we get to see her breastfeeding her 4-year-old on the cover of an actual parenting magazine (but at least she let him lie down and get comfy). As if we really needed another shot of her breastfeeding?

Paired with another tagline clearly intended to rile women up: "Mom Enough to Speak Out for Attachment Parenting" (it's a take-off of TIME's incendiary "Are You Mom Enough" coverline), the photo on the cover of Pathways to Family Wellness is actually rather sweet. Mom Grumet lays with her husband wrapped around her, their youngest son at her breast, their oldest son peeking in from behind dad. If only this were the only shot of her we'd ever seen.

With magazine cover two, Jamie Lynne Grumet has gone from "breastfeeding advocate" to "woman who wants to make sure everyone gets a look-see at her breastfeeding." She's crossed a line that makes it hard for moms who support breastfeeding as a whole to defend her.

Because Jamie Lynne isn't "just" breastfeeding. She isn't "just" breastfeeding in public either. She's making the act of breastfeeding into a spectacle, splashing it on magazine covers, trying to make some sort of point about how fabulous she is.

But that's more or less the opposite of what moms who breastfeed in public are looking for, isn't it?

From what I can tell, breastfeeding moms are looking for acceptance. They're looking to fit in. They're looking, if you really think about it, to be ignored.

Moms simply want the ability to sit in a restaurant or a park or a courthouse or a library and feed their child without anyone saying anything, without anyone giving them dirty looks. The idea is for breastfeeding to be a non-issue, just a part of the daily grind. After all, it's a kid getting something to eat, right? What's so strange about that?

I sat with a breastfeeding mom on Friday night in a public space -- our local ice cream stand. I ate my ice cream. Her son ate his breast milk. And we carried on a conversation as if nothing unusual was going on. Because, well, it wasn't. Her son was hungry. He ate. I didn't stare at her chest because who has a conversation with someone while staring at their chest?!

That's what breastfeeding in public is all about: being able to function in society and being able to function as a mom, all at the same time. It's not about getting people to pay attention to the fact that you're breastfeeding. But that's just what Jamie Lynne Grumet seems to be all about.

Where do you draw the line between fighting for the right to breastfeed in public and actually making a spectacle of the fact that you're breastfeeding? Has Jamie Lynne Grumet crossed your line?


Image via Pathways to Family Wellness



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the4m... the4mutts

No. There's nothing wrong with breastfeeding pictures on mgazines, it normalizes it for the freaks in society who think its icky. Well, someone has to be willing to pose, and get a little attention for those pictures to even exist.

We need to normalize breastfeeding and let the world see that its nothing to be ashamed of, its natural, and the ones who complain are the freaks and jerks, not us.

nonmember avatar cjsmom

Jeanne, you hit the nail on the head with this one. She is all about the publicity and all a breast feeding mom wants is to do her thing and get on with life. This woman is just a bit too much in the way of doing this for herself.

nonmember avatar Amy

What a beautiful portrait.

nonmember avatar LizzieBorden

Even though the image of her breast feeding is intended to shock I prefer it over the way women's bodies are used in advertisement & for men's magazines; I'm looking at you Carl Jr.!

gridi... gridironsmom

I agree with the4mutts.

MomLi... MomLily67

So what if she gets paid???? she looks great doing it, and it serves a purpose,  like bothering many  readers...... It is totally natural, I will never understand why ina country that pays millions to "stars' for possing nude, implemented nude magazines, is  "soooo open" about sex, is fighting for gender equality, same sex marriage, makes no big deal about posting photos of vaginas, penisses, breasts, etc.,, has so much issues about the image of a breasfeeding mom. 

we2an... we2angels

The more it's out there the more it's normalized.

Meg LeRoy Schlagenhauf

I don't know what her intentions are, and though I usually agree with you, Jeanne, neither do you.  Whether or not she is doing it for the attention, it needs to be done.  Before segregation was "just part of the daily grind," it had to be brought to the forefront in order to change people's opinions and to change the laws that allowed for discrimination.  Was Rosa Parks "making a spectacle?"  Maybe she was.  But it was for a damn good reason, and I feel the same can and should be said about Jamie Grumet.  Any kind of social change takes people willing to step into the limelight and bring the focus to their cause.  For those of us who already accept moms nursing in public, it may seem like overkill, but there are many, many places where people are not so accepting.  This issue needs to be discussed in order to be normalized.

nonmember avatar Michelle

I have ZERO problem with seeing a woman breastfeeding on the cover of a magazine or in public. What I DO have a problem with is a 4-YEAR OLD STILL DOING IT. Stigma or not, any child that is old enough to ask for it really shouldn't still be doing it. And THAT I shouldn't have to watch. Babies? Yes, because they are still helpless creatures that need our constant care. A 4-year old can darn near survive in the wild alone for a week (or at least I suspect mine could!). They can talk, dress themselves, use the toilet, and guess what? FEED THEMSELVES. This woman isn't educating anyone...she is flat out seeking attention.

nonmember avatar Emmie

Good Lord - it's breastfeeding. Women have been doing it since the beginning of time. It doesn't make you special, it makes you a mammal. We feed our babies until they can eat food and feed themselves. She takes it to an entirely new level. Something's loose upstairs and the fact that she finds pleasure/comfort or whatever in breastfeeding a 4 year-old and slapping it on a magazine cover is just sick. Can't wait to see how these kids turn out.

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