5 Parenting Fails Every New Mom Commits

babyIt goes without saying: Being a new mom is hard. You're used to only taking care of yourself -- maybe a few pets? -- when all of a sudden, boom, there's this little baby in your life whose every need, want, and desire has to be fulfilled by you! So, what happens? Well, sometimes, you screw up. Big time.

Here are 5 parenting fails I've already committed as a new mom. No, I am not proud.

I forgot to tighten the straps in the car seat. I know. I have one of those Snap N Go carseat/stroller combos -- you know where you take the carseat out of the car and pop it into a cart? It's great. Anyway, one time, after I took my daughter out of the car and popped her into the cart, I loosened her straps, because I felt like they were too tight. I strolled her around the store for a while like this, then when I put her back into the car -- oops! I forgot to tighten the straps again. Awesome.

The monitor died and I had an awesome night's sleep. About three weeks into my daughter sleeping in her own room, my unplugged half of the monitor died. In the middle of the night. While I was sleeping. And I never woke up during the night. I'm not talking, like, a 10 p.m. to 7 a.m. sleep here -- more like a midnight to 6. And I'm not gonna lie, I felt like a new woman after. (I like to think that if she did cry, I would have heard, but honestly, we'll never know.)

She slept in pee. Not a pee-pee diaper, a pee-pee crib sheet. When my daughter was first born, we were living in a tiny one-bedroom apartment with no laundry. She peed on one crib sheet, and I washed it. Then she peed on another, and, yeah, I wasn't making another trip to the laundromat for one thing. At least it had dried.

I starved her. Not intentionally, obviously, but it's impossible to tell how much food babies are getting when you're nursing! It took a trip to the pediatrician to find out that the reason she was crying, oh, for five, six hours a day was because the poor girl was hungry.

I forgot a diaper. I was running out of the house, I thought there was at least one left in my diaper bag, and yep, just didn't bring one. And yep, my daughter pooped.

What parenting fails have you committed?


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paren... parentalrights1

So... you weren't feeding her when she was crying for 5 hours at a time? No you can't measure how much they're getting, but you put them to the boob when they cry as well as checking diapers and such.

Just not sure how that happened. Hope the pedi didn't push formula

bobek bobek

The no diper thing happened to me when we went shopping at IKEA. There are always so many parents with kids, so I just asked for a diper from a mom who's kid was about the same size as mine. I was embarrassed, but better then having my son sitting in poop for a few hours...

MamaD... MamaDee83

Yeah, I was a little confused about the breast feeding thing, too, but like the title says, "new moms" can get all mixed up and stressed and confused... Though, I have to say, I never had that particular problem with either of my kids, and they were (are - one is 10 months old) EBF....

chigi... chigirl1228

I always forget the straps on the car seat. You would think after mentally kicking myself i would remember but no... never happens. And i woke up to a dead baby monitor one morning. Now i just leave it plugged into the charger. Just today i committed another parenting fail. I fell asleep on the couch with out the monitor plugged in (I wasn't intending on falling asleep) and when i woke up 2 hours later the poor baby was screaming in her crib. It didn't look like for long she didn't have any tears yet. Stuff happens and it's best to just shrug it off and come up with a way to correct it. Like for example the monitor is now plugged in in the living all the time now as well as the bedroom.

nonmember avatar KelleyD

If mom isn't producing enough milk the baby can be on the boob all day and still be hungry...

ashjo85 ashjo85

If I remember Nicole's previous articles, she wasn't producing enough milk. It's not like she was refusing to feed the baby, she just wasn't aware that she wasn't getting enough. So quit with the hate.

I think my fails thus far include the baby nail clippers: I took a chunk off the end of my son's thumb not even a week ago. Talk about GUILT! And when my daughter was a couple months old, she somehow wriggled to the edge of my king size bed (I'd left her pretty close the middle while I visited the bathroom). I came out just in time to see her in slow motion taking a header off the edge. Pretty sure I wet myself, despite the bathroom visit. She was fine, she landed on a big pile of pillows that happened to be stacked next to my bed. She didn't even cry until I yanked her off the floor completely panicked. Note to self: even newborns possess the ability to cross a bed.

EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

I'm glad you felt so good after your proper sleep, i think sometimes new mothers are so worried about the baby they sometimes forget they need to sleep too!  And yeah, i do remember something about milk production. There's nothing wrong with supplementing with formula of you aren't producing enough milk, no shame in it!!

purvi... purvislets

I am a constant diaperbag forgetter.  I cannot count the amount of times we've had to make an emergency stop at a pharmacy or grocery store to buy a new pack of diapers and some wipes because we left them at home.  

regen... regenbogenpilz

SO every new mom who breast feeds will starve her child?  Load of shit.  How dare you make such an accusation.  

nonmember avatar Karrie

Thank you so much for this list. My son is 14 months now and I've finally got a handle on things but at first I was so unsure of myself that I would second guess myself into forgetting things. My husbands grandparents still ask me "did you remember the formula this time?" (I forgot it one time when he was about 2 mo old, it wasn't the end of the world they live up the street from a store but they will never trust me to remember things again!)

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