Tori Spelling is a mom! Again! Her fourth baby with husband Dean McDermott was born today and blessed with a truly lovely name -- Finn Davey. As wonderful as this event is, most of us know that this is her fourth baby in a relatively short amount of time, after last giving birth to daughter Hattie just 10 months ago. Mama is going to have her hands full!
Still, it will be OK in the long run, even if it seems impossible right now. I also had my babies very close together (though not as close as Tori). My daughter was born just 18 months before my son. And while there are some REAL challenges in having two in diapers and essentially two babies, if she hangs in there, what happens later is amazing.
My two are now best friends. I bet hers will be, too.
In the meantime, there are some things she can do to make it all easier. One is to work on early potty training. My daughter was potty trained by 2, which was largely her own doing. But for me, it was wonderful because that meant I only had six months with two in diapers. Thank goodness.
She should also have the older kids help as much as they can. She also has a 5-year-old son, Liam, and a 4-year-old daughter, Stella. Obviously she is no stranger to babies close together, so she probably doesn't need my advice. But it never hurts!
Personally, I can't imagine having a 10-month-old and a newborn on top of my own 4- and 5-year-old, but Tori seems like she is thrilled with the addition. And the fact is, babies close together have their own sort of magic.
My son and daughter fight a fair amount. But when they don't, they can play for hours. They play elaborate games that take them all over our house. On vacations they have a constant playmate and never get bored. They endlessly amuse one another and insist on sharing a room even as we get ready to move into a bigger house where they could have their own rooms.
It's nice for both sets of kids to have their built-in playmate in the family. Having kids close together is one of those things most everyone says is harder on the front end and easier as time goes on.
What's your motherly advice to Tori with so many babies?
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