'Mom-Friendly' Library Kindly Banishes Breastfeeding Mom to Nursing Room

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nursing roomYou'd think a place that has its own "nursing room" for moms would be a pretty chill place to hang with your baby, wouldn't you? I'm betting the North Carolina mom who was breastfeeding her 2-month-old in the public library computer lab thought so. At least until an employee tried to banish her there.

Kelle Perkins had her son inside her shirt so he could eat while she finished her work on the computer at the local library. But when patrons complain, she said a library employee told her she'd have to move to the nursing room if she wanted to continue breastfeeding. Say what?

The good news is there's no need for a nurse-in at the Mecklenburg County Library, ladies. The library is apologizing for what they call an employee misunderstanding, and they say they've retrained staff. They're to let moms know the library's nursing room is available to them, not a place where they "must" go to feed their kids. 

But the fact is, this is a "misunderstanding" that keeps happening. Nursing rooms are supposed to make moms' lives easier. They're not supposed to make it easier for prudes to push women out of the public eye and make them feel like they're doing something wrong when they're feeding their kids.

I need to be careful here because I don't want to discourage businesses from creating designated nursing spaces. There is a place for these rooms, and the fact that they're cropping up at facilities moms frequent -- like libraries -- is a good thing. I remember being highly uncomfortable breastfeeding around people, and I know there are plenty of women like me who would prefer to have a place to go instead of being forced to sit in their cars or hide in a bathroom. They're also great for moms who have to pump or moms who just want to get a noisy kid out of the way to calm them down.

But as long as nursing rooms are being used against moms, they aren't making our lives easier. They're just adding to our headaches!

Breastfeeding is normal. It can be done in public by women who ARE more comfortable with it than I was with no problem. And the fact is, in most place, they're protected by law to do so.

Have you taken advantage of a nursing room before? Did you feel like you had to go in there to breastfeed?


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Billie Jo Evans

I think it's ridiculous that people can't mind their own business. This lady didn't have her breasts all hanging out, she had a child under her shirt nursing. Now let's ban all the swimsuit & lingerie ads!

britn... britneykaren

Just use the room!!! Yea it's natural but so is taking a dump and we are banned to another private room to do it, what's the differences? And yes, I do breastfeed and I do it in public under blankets and in dark corners or in my car when there is no private room for me to go to, every place should have them and we should respect them

paren... parentalrights1

All you people comparing nourishing a baby to shitting are well... STUPID. There I said it.

She has the right. Fuck everyone who is still too stupid to understand that they have been brainwashed to think that breasts are obscene.

paren... parentalrights1

Gosh the freakin' stupidity I don't understand how people can be so willfully freakin' dumb.

MissC... MissCatalina

Breastmilk is still a bodily fluid, the other patrons might have been bothered by that as well. What if the baby was drinking from a mother who was infected with HIV then projectile vomitted into someone else's face? Yeah breastfeeding isn't so beautiful then, is it?

Btw, I breastfed my daughter...but I used a pump. Do people not use breastpumps & bottles anymore? That invention saved my life when my daughter refused to latch on.

Todd Vrancic

MissCatalina, a mother who is HIV positive is discouraged from breastfeeding because if the infant doesn't already have HIV, they don't want the mother to pass it to the baby.  The ones who are worried about breastmilk getting on the computers should realize that when a mother nurses her baby, the milk does not typically go anywhere but into the infant or perhaps some gets absorbed into the mother's bra or nursing pads.

LSeab... LSeabolt1982

That is not where eating babies should go. But that IS where mothers that are feeding there child from their breast should go. I am sorry prude or not I would totally be offended by seeing that not to mention the questions it raises when my 3 1/2 year old sees it. Not going there with my toddler. Come on.

LSeab... LSeabolt1982

In corporate america should I be able to whip it out at my desk and pump? I mean where does it end?

nonmember avatar missy

Seriously?! Her rights were being denied how? They provide a NURSING ROOM for crying out loud. I am all for anyone breast feeding their babies but I am so tired of these stories, I breast fed both of my kids and pumped so they could take a bottle when we were out. I don't see why this is so complicated I honestly think some women WANT the drama

nonmember avatar kaerae

@Jane - It's not urinating, it's EATING!!!!!

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