Beyonce Shouldn’t Breastfeed Blue Ivy if She Doesn’t Want To

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BeyonceSomething tells me that when Beyonce put a photo of herself and daughter Blue Ivy up on Tumblr, she wasn't expecting to be drawn into the bottle vs. breast debate. And yet, that's the world we're living in. A mother is seen with her baby in one hand, bottle in the other, and the debate begins.

OMG, why isn't she breastfeeding? Doesn't she know how good it is for the baby? How long did she breastfeed? The "nice" response comes in the type of backhanded compliments Beyonce's been getting this week. They run along the lines of, "oh, well, you know, you really should breastfeed for at least a year but I guess it's nice that she did it at all."

Ahem, ladies. Were we looking at the same photo?

I saw Beyonce feeding Blue Ivy from a bottle. I did not see a sign on the bottle that said, "This is full of formula!" For all we know, Beyonce could have pumped her breast milk and Blue Ivy could have been sucking it down. Or maybe it was formula, which could still mean she was breastfeeding but happens to be supplementing these days. Or maybe she's had trouble breastfeeding and she has given up. Or maybe she's using a breast milk bank. Or. Or. Or.

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You see where I'm going with this? There are at least a half dozen scenarios I can think of right now from that one photo, and none is any less likely than the others.

As much as the constant nagging over whether a mom should or shouldn't be breastfeeding hurts women, the wild assumptions and accusations that follow may hurt even more.

It isn't just the bottles. We ran an adorable video of a little boy being fed vegetables from a spoon a few weeks back, and there were more than a few comments attacking the mom for feeding her baby jarred baby food. And yet, I never saw a jar. There was no reason to assume she hadn't prepared her own peas fresh from her garden. In fact, I know moms who do just that and, for ease of use, actually put their homemade food into old glass baby food jars that they buy at yard sales. But if you judged them solely on the look of the jar, well ...

If we took all the energy we expend on jumping to conclusions and ripping our fellow moms to shreds, just imagine what we could accomplish!

What did you think when you saw Beyonce's latest pictures with Blue Ivy? Were you focusing on the bottle in her hand?


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MomLi... MomLily67

it is non of anyone's bussiness how you feed your baby!!! some criticize breast feeding, others bottle feeding, what is the deal here!!!! just feed them babies with the goal of having healthy, happy kids.



I agree with most everyone. I'm sick of this fight. To each their own.

Nj Eirojnkcin

OMG I am pro-breastfeeding but it's not always (and most of the time for most moms) feasible for women to nurse to a year!!! I've had 4 children and never made it past 5 months. My first son was ordered in the hospita to supplement because of low blood sugar and I had a spinal headache which made nursing harder and uninadvertently phased out of nursing! My second and third son I made it a lot longer but just couldn't keep up with them (HUGE babies) and I am now nursing my 3mos old baby and just was ordered by the doctor to supplement with formula because she lost a few ounces and wasn't sick. SO not every mom is able to nurse for a year and more power to you superwomen out there but a large percentage of moms have stressful days and nursing takes a lot of time and yes is worth it but sometimes you have to put your baby's development over your need to nurse. If I have a doctor tell me that me nursing alone is causing my child to lose weight then formula and breastmilk it is!

Shelly Wiebe

This is ridiculous...I was a brestfeeding mom and proud of it - BUT its sad that when I went to the mall and would bring a bottle or two of PUMPED BREASTMILK to save myself from having find a private spot to breastfeed - and Id be worried that someone would be judging me for giving him a bottle, not knowing it was breastmilk. AND WHO CARES if it wasnt breastmilk. Id rather spend my time and energy focussed on my child and my husband!

Rebecca Squishy Adams

Okay seriously when we have people out there beating their kids with bags full of glass or just beating them to death then eating pizza who cares if the woman is using jar baby food or not I've seen people filling baby bottles up with a lot worse than formula like soda for example and yet your harping beyonce for being a good mom andand taking care of the baby was the milk was the bottlefilthy no or filled with beer no so lay off

Janet Naylor Vandenabeele

I think you nailed it: People want to feel superior so they pick on others for everything. Every little last thing. Bottle feed? You must be abusing the baby! Breast feed? Don't show your boobies in public, you slut! The baby veg picture incident is another perfect case in point. ERMAGERHD! YEHR FEEDING THEM PUEHR SUGHERR! 

And BTW, my sister wanted nothing so much as to breastfeed her kids and could not. This was in the days before milk banks. So formula it was. And they have grown up to be thin, healthy adults. 

Crystal Farmer

I am so sick of this debate.  I breastfed my twins for 18 months, and encourage women to do so when I get an opportunity.  That being said, I am tired of BF mommys putting down FF mommys.  FF mommys are doing what they think is best for their situation, and no person (anywhere) will convince me that mommys love their babies any less because they choose formula over breastmilk.  Whether it's breastmilk in the bottle or formula, Beyonce's baby is loved and nurtured.  That's what matters!

Amy Strausbaugh Noss

What strikes me about the whole thing is that people feel they have the right to make any judgment at all.  How about everyone mind their own business, raise their own kids the way they want and leave other people alone to make whatever choices they need to make to raise their children.  Barring abusive situations and I don't care what anyone says, not breastfeeding your child is NOT abuse, people have the right to make these decisions without the rest of the world butting in.

Michella Digel

Or it's not anyone's business...

zumba... zumbafreak11

I think the debate over BFing vs bottle feeding is just plain crazy.  As long as baby's being fed and properly cared for and loved, then who cares?  Unless it's YOUR baby, you really have no say in the matter.

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