Beyonce Shouldn’t Breastfeed Blue Ivy if She Doesn’t Want To

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BeyonceSomething tells me that when Beyonce put a photo of herself and daughter Blue Ivy up on Tumblr, she wasn't expecting to be drawn into the bottle vs. breast debate. And yet, that's the world we're living in. A mother is seen with her baby in one hand, bottle in the other, and the debate begins.

OMG, why isn't she breastfeeding? Doesn't she know how good it is for the baby? How long did she breastfeed? The "nice" response comes in the type of backhanded compliments Beyonce's been getting this week. They run along the lines of, "oh, well, you know, you really should breastfeed for at least a year but I guess it's nice that she did it at all."

Ahem, ladies. Were we looking at the same photo?

I saw Beyonce feeding Blue Ivy from a bottle. I did not see a sign on the bottle that said, "This is full of formula!" For all we know, Beyonce could have pumped her breast milk and Blue Ivy could have been sucking it down. Or maybe it was formula, which could still mean she was breastfeeding but happens to be supplementing these days. Or maybe she's had trouble breastfeeding and she has given up. Or maybe she's using a breast milk bank. Or. Or. Or.

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You see where I'm going with this? There are at least a half dozen scenarios I can think of right now from that one photo, and none is any less likely than the others.

As much as the constant nagging over whether a mom should or shouldn't be breastfeeding hurts women, the wild assumptions and accusations that follow may hurt even more.

It isn't just the bottles. We ran an adorable video of a little boy being fed vegetables from a spoon a few weeks back, and there were more than a few comments attacking the mom for feeding her baby jarred baby food. And yet, I never saw a jar. There was no reason to assume she hadn't prepared her own peas fresh from her garden. In fact, I know moms who do just that and, for ease of use, actually put their homemade food into old glass baby food jars that they buy at yard sales. But if you judged them solely on the look of the jar, well ...

If we took all the energy we expend on jumping to conclusions and ripping our fellow moms to shreds, just imagine what we could accomplish!

What did you think when you saw Beyonce's latest pictures with Blue Ivy? Were you focusing on the bottle in her hand?


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jalaz77 jalaz77

I think it's funny when women posts pictures of babies bottle feeding and they are ripped apart for it like you are abusing your child (saw that as a comment somewhere) or if a woman post a pic BFing they are given a hold medal like they are mom of the year. I look at it this way, a mom feeding her child, caring and nurturing the child like any loving mother should do whether it's BF or bottle feeding. This debate is sickening. I am pro BFing but never look down on a mom for bottle feeding.

BusyM... BusyMom7789

I saw the picture you mention and the only thing I thought was cute baby.  Nowadays women are exhausting to me.  I thought being a mom to two little ones would sap my energy but it's actually other moms.  Even people you don't know feel the need to ask personal questions: are you/ did you breast feed, are you using jar baby foods, are you shopping strictly organic, disposable or reusable diapers, natural birth or c- sect, the list goes on and on.  I'm tired just thinking about it.

jhslove jhslove

Well said, jalaz77.

Stacey. Stacey.

Who cares? Formula is nourishing and nutritious. ANyone who disagrees is a dumbass, because that is a fact not an opinion. Saying otherwise would be like saying broccoli is poison, because kale has so many more nutrients.

Also, since when was veggies from a jar bad for you? There are kids out there who dont even have access to fresh water and we're talking about this crap....

EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

Totally agree with all of you. I'm so tired with this stupid debate.

Feeding your child isn't a contest, there are no winners.

AliNo... AliNoelle

Agree with everyone else. The baby is obviously well cared for and loved.That is what is important.

Torra... TorranceMom

Good blog on FF as a "choice."

Malia Cole

I am always amazed by the number of perfect moms there are out there ;) I couldn't breastfeed due to a chronic disease & fed my daughter organic food from a JAR - shutter. You will be shocked to hear that she is top of her first grade class and as healthy as can be - with all of the RULES, you'd think she would be drooling in a corner somewhere. Motherhood is hard, lets cheer each other on and enjoy our kids while we can.

Patsy Avon Rupprecht

She is a big girl and cand od what she feels is right for her and her children leave her alone!

Joleen Marie Crosta

Not all moms get to EBF, I am one of them. I had a low supply and did whatever I could to EBF and I had no choice but to supplement to keep my baby healthy. Being a good mom isn't EBF it is caring & loving for your child unconditionally. Formula feeding moms deserve more credit, they are doing thier best and what is right for THEIR BABY!

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