Woman Caught Stealing Newborn in a Tote Bag Validates Every New Mom's Nightmare

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newborn baby girlBefore my daughter was born, I had a recurring nightmare about some shadowy figure stealing her away in the night. I would wake up in a panic only to remember -- forehead smack -- I was still pregnant! That was over 11 years ago, but it still sends a chill down my spine to think about the woman who dressed up in scrubs and attempted to steal a newborn baby girl from a Southern California hospital ... in a tote bag. A purple tie-dyed tote bag, no less!! (Even my nightmare didn't feature a purple tie-dyed tote bag.)

Thanks to hospital staff (and sensor ID tags), the woman, 48-year-old Grisel Ramirez, was apprehended quickly. The baby is fine and back with her mom (who will no doubt never let go of that child again, poor woman). But still! This is the stuff of nightmares and/or Lifetime movies, not real life. How is this new mom supposed to be able to distinguish between rational and irrational parenting fears from here on out?

If you're a mom, you know exactly the ongoing battle I'm talking about. We're always having to check ourselves when it comes to maternal worry. If you're up all night worrying about a giant hawk coming along and snatching your kid from the sandbox with its creepy talons, well, maybe you should think about filing that one under the "irrational" category (also, you should probably figure out where that weird hawk-related phobia is coming from). If, on the other hand, you're up all night worrying about a funny looking rash on your baby's tummy, well, might as well go ahead and call the doctor -- it's probably nothing, but it COULD be something. In other words, that one is a "rational" concern.

The fact that the would-be thief dressed up like a nurse and instructed the new mom to take a shower (then made off with the baby!) only makes things worse. It's hard enough trusting people to keep your kid safe -- every doctor, teacher, and babysitter is going to look like a would-be kidnapper to this mom! So unfair.

What is (or was) your worst new mom nightmare?


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nonmember avatar Amanda

I have irrational thoughts that I'll die and not get to see my son grow up. Or, worse yet, that he'll die in a car accident or be kidnapped and I'll never see him again. He's only 5 months old. :/

nonmember avatar Christie

I am scared that they will go missing in the night too. DS is 2 and DD is 6. I am so scared that DD is going to wake up at night and wonder out to catch fireflies and god knows what could happen. My biggest fear is that they will be kidnapped, that is the most helpless you can feel if you don't know where to look you will just be chasing your tail all while being looked at by the cops and the possible kidnapper/killer. I always feel for the parents who's kids go missing from their beds and are not noticed until the AM, they are always looked at suspiciously and sometimes they are innocent. I make it a point when I get up in the middle of the night to check both beds.

Waag Waag

My son is nearly 2 and I still have the fear that someone will steal him at night Im up constantly checking on him. I finally bought a video monitor so I dont have to get up every time I can just look over so I only go in to check on him once or twice now to make sure he is covered and still breathing. I use to have a fear that a snake would get in his crib and I wouldn't be able to get it off. Im very scared of snakes.

monke... monkeymom1104

That's why each shift through nurses need to come in and introduce your new nurse to you. If a nurse comes to your room that you don't know send them away until one you have met introduces you.

Sheila79 Sheila79

With my second I barely let her go literally until I desperately needed a shower but right after I went to get her cause after my first I had grown so protective. I deal with anxiety and depression so the thoughts and nightmares were insane that I'd rather not mention but I'm getting better however I still have them very close in public and check on them at night too much goes on in this crazy world

early... earlybird11

Wow crazy. I never ever worried bc of.the extra.security in hospital ( is tags. Warning sirens etc ) but one morning they accidently brought me the wrong baby ( scariest moment of my life ) only took two seconds to realize for them and luckily it was just that they had two carts and wheeled.in the wrong one.

nonmember avatar zizzler

Hospitals are scary to me! Because it seems like they spirit away your baby and who knows if you'll get the same kid back or what people are doing to the baby while you're not looking. Our last baby was born in a midwifery and it was nice because she never left our arms. No alarms present or needed. If someone wanted to take her, they'd have to pry her from my arms, and they'd have a better chance at plucking clouds from the sky. It was also cool that we got to leave with her just 6 hours after she was born!

natal... natalieumphrey

i had a woman obsessed with me when i was pregnant with my 2nd set of twins.she pretended to be pregnant with twins too. always staring at me,wanting to touch me freaked out!!!!!!

MIA0223 MIA0223

They had a special on one of the channels about women who steal newborns. One mom got dragged through Walmart parking lot because se wouldn't let go of te car the lady got in that stole her baby.

I was scared in public someone would steal her. But never in the hospital. The cord clamp thing had an alarm on it that would go off if someone tried to take the baby off the maternity floor. She wa also in room with me the entire time!

stell... stellarnewmom

If I hear my house settle and it doesn't sound normal to me, I can't fall asleep without my husband making sure no one is in the house with us. I am frightened that someone will come in the middle of the night and make off with my daughter. It is awful! I hate it. But I sleep so lightly now that she's arrived (I used to sleep like a rock) that I hear every little coo and I just can't stand the thought of a monitor with sound. I'm also (irrational but is VERY possible thanks to 20/20 revealing it) frightened of someone hacking my monitor and listening to everything we say and breaking in to our house while we are gone and taking everything. My worry meter is thru the roof some days!

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