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'Stealing' a Baby Name Is Every New Mom's Right

by Sasha Brown-Worsham on July 30, 2012 at 3:59 PM

Baby namesThe other day, a posting came up in one of my mom list serves. A woman was irate because she felt someone else had "stolen" her baby name. "I wanted to name my son Aidan and then my sister-in-law did," she ranted. 

All of us understood. We have all had that sinking moment where we see another person with our child's name and think: "OMG SHE STOLE MY NAME!" But we all need to chillax. Seriously. It's impossible to "steal" a name, and unless you make up a name that no one has ever heard, someone, somewhere will have the same name as your kid. Shocking, I know.

When my children were born, I had enormous pressure, especially with my son. I had to come up with a name that started with an A and had an L after. But I couldn't use Alex or Alec because they were "taken." Hello, challenge.

Well, I made a mistake. I should have used the name Alec (because I love it dammit!) and not worried what anyone else thought.

There is no "reserving" of names, especially with a name like Aidan. How many Aidans do we know in the world? If this is the name you like, then use it. Don't worry about who else used it. Besides, if it's a friend, it's also possible you won't even be friends 20 years from now and then you gave up the name for no good reason.

Baby names are sacred, it's true. In my culture, we only name for those who have died and what you name a child is incredibly meaningful and important. Because of that, I begrudgingly wouldn't overlap a name or reuse one. But that's just me.

If you are naming because you LIKE a name, then use it. No one can "claim" a name. Now, of course, on the other side, there might be some hurt feelings. Personally, I would be silently angry if someone used either of my kid's names, especially if they didn't talk to me about it first.

On the other hand, I don't own those names. They aren't copyrighted. They don't belong to me. Other children have those names.

People should be able to name their children as they see fit, and if someone else has an opinion on that, they should keep it to themselves. All is fair in love and naming children. Isn't that how the old saying goes?

Did you "steal" your baby name or have someone "steal" one from you?

 

 

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  • stork...
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    storkneedsgps

    July 30, 2012 at 4:26 PM
    I would think it depends on how close the person is, a sibling or a friend that I will have all my life, then id be mad. My husband's step cousin or a coworkers kid or an old college buddy I just see on Facebook? Who cares?
  • stork...
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    storkneedsgps

    July 30, 2012 at 4:26 PM
    I would think it depends on how close the person is, a sibling or a friend that I will have all my life, then id be mad. My husband's step cousin or a coworkers kid or an old college buddy I just see on Facebook? Who cares?
  • aReal...
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    aRealteenMother

    July 30, 2012 at 4:31 PM
    I wouldnt care if someone named their daughter the same as mine, but the spelling of her middle name is unique and if they spelled it the same, I would KNOW they got it from me, but I don't care.
  • SoJaided
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    SoJaided

    July 30, 2012 at 4:52 PM
    My fiance and I have decided to keep our name choices to ourselves til the baby is born in January for this reason. The girl name is especially unique and different so we don't want to risk anyone using it.
  • JAFE
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    JAFE

    July 30, 2012 at 5:05 PM

    A family member really did steal my name. She KNEW what we were naming a son if we had one and she took it. I thought "screw that" and named my son that anyway much to my mother in laws horror!! I wanted that name since I was a teenager and shouldn't have told anyone. So she had two grandsons named Jason and it wasn't my problem.


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    ghostbaby

    July 30, 2012 at 5:28 PM
    I didnt tell anyone what i was naming my kid till i had him, mostly because i knew so many people who were also having boys. I didnt want them changing their minds at ths last minute and then hearing someone tell me i used the same name as so&so. I wouldnt have a fit over it, your kid is bound to cross paths with another kid with the same name they have. Even if the spelling is different
  • Pinkmani
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    Pinkmani

    July 30, 2012 at 5:33 PM

    The same thing happened to Kourtney Kardashian, when she wanted to name her daughter Maxwell; but Jessice Simpson "stole" it. 

    I would probably confront them about it. 


  • Mrs.C...
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    Mrs.Clark

    July 30, 2012 at 5:42 PM
    It kind of sucks when u spend all that time searching for the perfect first and middle names together, and then u tell someone close and they name their baby that name. That happened to me with my first two children. With my little girl, I didnt tell anyone her name until she was born. I still had to change her middle name though because I had Blue picked out for a middle name. Beyond had her baby and named her Blue. I knew if used that name I would never hear the end of it. Lol.
  • zizzler
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    zizzler

    July 30, 2012 at 6:19 PM
    All my kids' names are made up craziness, and so is mine, my siblings, my spouse and his siblings names. Strange but true it's a tradition on both sides of our family! No one on earth has the same name as my kid (not that I'd care). Her name is the word for an obscure fruit in another language. That aside, I wouldn't care if my own sister "stole" my baby names, I'd still use them and be sure to bring it up to anyone who asks, hahaha. Eventually they'd end up with separate nicknames anyhow.
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    Mary Cimino

    July 30, 2012 at 6:52 PM

    I named my daughter Hilda, yes I'm evil I know. But I seriously doubt anyone would steal that name and she goes by Maxine which again I doubt anyone wants lol. I named her after my Great-Grandmother who was born in 1912 and was the only Grandmother I knew.


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