Kourtney Kardashian Is Suffering From 'Good First Baby' Curse (VIDEO)

Kourtney Kardashian & Mason DisickKourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick are having a tougher time with baby number two, Penelope Scotland, than they did with their first born, oft-photographed, well-dressed, Mason Dash. So say the tabloids. According to reports, the littlest Disick isn't quite as calm and relaxed as her big brother was when he was a newborn. Apparently, Penelope has been "keeping [Kourtney and Scott] up all night crying", and, understandably, Mom and Dad are exhausted and "on edge" because of it.

Ah, the classic "dream first child" situation. A tale I've heard many times. A tale that makes me happy my baby wasn't all that easy in the beginning.

Having a baby who cried a lot was one of my biggest fears when I was pregnant. Being a person without a lot of baby experience -- and a person, formerly, with a low tolerance for the sound of screaming babies -- the thought of having a fussy or ... colicky child freaked. Me. Out.

And then I had my daughter, and guess what?! She cried. A lot! More than the average newborn I was told/read. Sometimes for six, seven hours a day. And it was horrible. Honestly, worse than I thought. For the first five weeks of her life, I sat alone in my 700-square-foot apartment, three stories up in the sky, with a hysterically crying baby, wondering when and how my neighbors were going to kill me. My worst nightmare had come true.

Without getting into a huge story -- and without turning this into a pro/anti-breastfeeding post -- turns out the poor thing was hungry. Really hungry. So, I started -- yes -- supplementing with formula, and she stopped, literally, within minutes. New baby. New mama. New perspective on everything. I was able to enjoy my perfect daughter as I was meant to, not as I feared: Relaxed and peacefully.

Now. This may sound strange, but in a way -- albeit, a small way -- I'm actually kind of glad that the first few weeks of my motherhood weren't a walk in the park. I'm sort of happy my baby cried (no, I am not happy she was hungry). I have heard so many parents tell stories about how their second born is "so not as calm as the first," and I have seen the perplexed and stressed looks on their faces. And it doesn't look like fun.

My baby was, by no means, one of those "dream babies" in the beginning. (She is now!) She did not "sleep all the time," and, yes, she cried a lot. So, now, if and when I have another child, I won't be blindsided if he or she is not completely and totally calm and quiet and asleep all the time like a good little newborn. And if he or she is, well, that's just great.

Did you have a tougher time with your second child than with your first?



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nonmember avatar Em

My first was a dream baby...breasted no problems, happy, slept 6 hours straight by 4 weeks, etc. I was secretly full of smug self-congratulations about how I was sooo naturally good at this mommy thing. Then came #2, baby from hell. I can say that because I love him and evause the colic has since passed. It was hugely humbling, but I don't know if it would have been easier if my first was a hard baby...second might just not have existed is all!

nonmember avatar asjia

No my first was a nightmare, my second has been a walk in the park

Sheila Blankenship

My husband and I had this happen to us. Our first baby was a dream. She was easy going never cried unless something was awfully wrong. She even began sleeping through the night at 2 months old. My second baby on the other hand was quite difficult. My oldest was three when he was born, and he was born premature, so including his rough start, he had a hard time adjusting at home. It's such a challenging transition to become adjusted to being a parent of two and taking care of two simultaneously when you've been "spoiled" by the first baby and your expectations are not, i guess what you'd say realistic lol

Torra... TorranceMom

Nope. Our first born was a ball buster. He took three months to get the hang of breastfeeding, he'd wake up to eight times a night and didn't sleep through the night until he was almost two. Our second baby has been a breeze! She took to breastfeeding almost right away and at 16 months only gets up one to two times a night.

MIA0223 MIA0223

I am due with our second in January!

With DD we said we hit the baby lottery. She was the perfect baby! Never cried, slept 5 hours at night from birth, woke up happy.

Hopefully we will win twice! Lol!

My mom said I was the perfect baby, she thought all babies were like me so she had my sister 17 months after having me and got her big wake up call! Lol!

Heath... HeatherMazzone

That's funny, the first 6 weeks I breast fed only and she was super fussy like that, it's like no matter how much I fed her, she was always still hungry. So I switched to formula and she stopped completely. Totally different baby. Turns out I had a low supply and no matter how much I fed or pumped, breast feeding just wasn't a reliable option for us. She barely cried at all until about 7 months, then she entered the whiny phase. Ugh. Lol

nonmember avatar KatieW

While my first son (2 1/2 yr old ) wasn't easy at first, by a month old he was a breeze. My second son (7 weeks old) is soooo hard. Takes 30-45 mins to nurse, will only sleep laying on me, cries almost all the time when not sleeping. Doc thinks it's reflux, but meds aren't working. But, to be truthful, if my 2nd was 1st, I definitely wouldn't have had #2...

lizzig lizzig

i had the same thing with my chldren.  my first was the "perfect" baby/toddler.  she slept good, hardly fussed , never whined, no need to baby proof -she never got into anything, etc.  my second was the complete opposite!!  he was fussy, got into everything, barely slept.   i joke that if i had had my son first i may have only had one child! ;o)

yayhe... yayheadstart

I always say if I had my second baby first, there would never have been a second baby! She cried constantly and is still high-strung at 6 years old!

JiggyOz JiggyOz

I love the old quote, "You aren't a parent until you have two kids."  I remember being that smug mother-of-one who's baby was so perfect and did everything right - what was wrong with all of these other parents?!  Well I ate some humble pie as soon as my second (and third) was born...  And now I just smile and nod when I hear first-time moms do the same thing.  :)  I've also because way less judgmental about other mothers and their parenting methods.  Whatever works for you!  

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