Being a Mom Is Boring

Say What!? 27

yawnSomething tells me mom and writer Julie Cook is about to get a lot of hate mail. She came out this week in the British tabloid the Daily Mail with a story about the drudgery of motherhood. The headline? "I love my son, but being a mother bores me."

G'head and hate on her ladies -- plenty of people already are -- but I'm not joining you. For one, I doubt Cook even wrote the provocative headline (little writer's secret here: often we don't). For another? I happen to agree with her.

Motherhood, especially early motherhood, is awfully boring.

Of course, I need to put in a little disclaimer here. I love my daughter to pieces, just the way that Cook probably loves her son.

But let me give you a picture of the first few months of her life:

She slept. She cried. She ate. She pooped in her diaper. She cried. She ate. She slept.

Did I mention she ate, slept, and pooped? Oh right, and cried.

She cried because she wanted to eat. She cried because she wanted to sleep. She cried because she'd pooped.

Don't get me wrong: I was very busy during the first year of my daughter's life what with all the feeding and diaper changing and trying to make her stop crying. I was happy, even, to finally have this little bundle of tears and poop in my arms.

But that doesn't mean it was interesting. In fact, I have a theory of sorts about the "watching paint dry is more exhilarating" quality of early motherhood. It's boring for a reason.

The boring same old same old is about all a mom can handle when she hasn't had a full night's sleep in six months. That's right, we need boring. The eat, sleep, poop, cry, later, rinse, repeat routine is something we can do in our sleep ... or would if we actually got any. If you really think about it, it's safer this way. We know what we're doing, and we can handle it. When things get exciting, they also get scary. I don't like scary ... do you?

The good news for all moms, even Julie Cook? Life with a 7-year-old is never boring. They don't actually shut up long enough for you to snooze off.

So be honest, does Julie Cook's confession really sound that shocking to you? Were you bored?

 

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Desir... Desireesmom2011

The only time I have ever been bored with my daughter is when shes sleeping. 

Anne4222 Anne4222

How about the smiles and mile stones? My twins had me entertained from day 1. I loved watching them and still do now at 2 years old. It's quite sad that people find motherhood boring. I was exhausted but definitely never bored.

Torra... TorranceMom

I was waaaay to busy to be bored.

nonmember avatar Megan

I think it depends on the baby/mom too. my first was like an angel straight from heaven. It was pure joy, and laughter, and peace and newness. Never cried, always happy and assertive. Oh my gosh, with her, having a baby was the best thing that ever happened! I had no idea how spoiled she made me as a first time mom, until I had my second. Now THAT was nothing but tears and poop and sleepless mundane ritual for a year. She's the most vivacious and fun kid on the planet now but that first year I was thinking "why does anyone sit at home and do this?".

calim... calimom73

Yes I was bored too..and overwhelmed and exhausted and totally in love with my little one. 

MeowLove MeowLove

lol it is boring! i love my daughter to peices, she has this new thing where her hands are dirty she holds them out and says bleh! buuut playing the same game a thousand times over 2 hours is incredibly boring. shes sweet, loving, bossy, and adorable, but the stinky feet game can get tedious...

eleph... elephantmamaof2

Oh I HATE to be bored. I tried ANYTHING to change it up! Even sitting on the porch helped, I think being around the same scenery all day every day facilitates the bored feeling. Because there's too much to do to honestly be bored, its just that feeling of boredom because those busy things never really change!

Amanda Johnson Hull

I agree in many ways.  While I wouldn't call motherhood (even early motherhood) "boring," necessarily, I would say I definitely needed some brain fodder.  I went from finishing up my Master's Degree in Music to being a stay at home mom.  It was a difficult switch, and while I enjoyed motherhood, and there were some exciting moments, it was very monotonous, and my mind needed something to keep it occupied.  I needed a hobby, a way to use my free brain-space (I read a lot of parenting books that I can recite still to this day, I really tried to intellectualize the whole parenting thing).  As my daughter is getting older (she's 21 months old) and we're expecting another baby, I'm certain I'll find myself less bored and busier, but for now I started digital scrapbooking, I read voraciously and I sincerely enjoy a good discussion on parenting styles.  

nonmember avatar HS

I'd have to read the article first to agree or disagree with the author but I can speak on the first few months of motherhood. Bored outta my mind lol! Love my son, he is my world but lord it was boring there for a while. Especially as a single parent! I was gone and out of the house with my son after a week. And we're still that way 3 years later. He's a bright, smart, athletic, fun loving kid but honestly yall, you can only do so much in the beginning lol.

Carol99 Carol99

There are many boring moments of motherhood and they are many wonderful ones.  Ya gotta take the bad with the good.

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