Follow The Stir

Eye Roll

Baby Raves Celebrate the First Birthday With Ecstasy Cookies!

by Jeanne Sager on April 30, 2012 at 1:45 PM

glow stickThink the Sweet Sixteen parties have gotten out of control? Wacky parents are throwing raves for their babies. Because nothing screams baby like someone so high they suck the toxic crap out of their glow bracelets and get rushed to the hospital, right?

Whatever happened to making sure parties "for" your kid were actually kid-appropriate? I know your baby may not understand the drug culture references right now, but guess what folks: the rest of the neighborhood does. And we're rolling our eyes at you.

This bit of crazy came to light on STFU Parents last week, complete with links to a mom's Pinterest board where you too can develop a plan to mark your innocent infant's first birthday with the kind of dance party that traditionally ends when the cops show up. She says the "e" cookies were a joke, but I'm not so sure. And I'm even less sure that parents will find this whole thing as horrifying as I (and STFU's writer) do.

It turns out baby raves have been a "thing" for quite awhile. Parents throw these little black light and loud music events because they think it's just so darn cute, and gee, a baby doesn't get it!

Ahem. Babies are still human beings, folks. They aren't toys.

Throwing any party "for" your kid with a wildly inappropriate theme shows this event isn't about your kid at all. It's about you living out some of fantasy with your kid as a prop.

So you're sick of Elmo, princesses, and doggies? Good for you. Your kid isn't. They're pretty new to the world, and they're just starting to actually start to pay attention to things, and actually getting to eat something other than what comes out of your boob, and goshdarnit, this is their party. Just look who is in the center of all the pictures ... the pictures they're going to be looking at in a few years. (Which do you think will be easier to explain to your 6-year-old as they pore through the babybook: Those ecstasy cookies or why there was Elmo cake all over their face?)

Where do you draw the line on "adult" at a baby's party?

 

Image via nickstone333/Flickr

Filed Under: baby first year, bonding

Comments

21
  • JAIRA...
    --

    JAIRATRACI

    April 30, 2012 at 1:56 PM
    The most adult a party of my kids is going to get is the music.
  • Lulu425
    --

    Lulu425

    April 30, 2012 at 2:03 PM

    Why? Why is this so wrong?

    Your child will not remember their first birthday party. Your child doesn't give a shit about their first birthday. The PARENTS care about Baby's First Birthday, so why isn't it a party for them, too? I'd rather do something fun than something childlike for someone who is TOO YOUNG TO APPRECIATE IT EITHER WAY.


  • JAIRA...
    --

    JAIRATRACI

    April 30, 2012 at 2:15 PM
    It's wrong because it's a kids birthday party not an adults. Kids birthday parties are supposed to be kid like an not full of drunk/drugged up idiots. If you can't go to a kids party for a couple hours an not drink or do drugs then you need to get help quickly. I
  • lalab...
    --

    lalaboosh

    April 30, 2012 at 2:16 PM
    Ravers aren't all drug users. Many people actually like DANCING, did you know? Oh and babies love dancing! They also love bright colors and watching people dance. A rave is a great theme for a first birthday and had I been up to more than tacking a banner up and making spaghetti and a cake I might have put some Gaga on and put a disco ball up. My daughter would have loved it. I wouldn't have joke E cookies though. Maybe at a sweet sixteen if I frosted them to look like pills and gave out information about drug awareness.
  • lalab...
    --

    lalaboosh

    April 30, 2012 at 2:18 PM
    JAIRATRACI, where is the drug and alcohol use mentioned? I didn't see that anywhere.
  • Lulu425
    --

    Lulu425

    April 30, 2012 at 2:19 PM
    JAIRATRACI
    on Apr 30, 2012 at 2:15 PM
    It's wrong because it's a kids birthday party not an adults. Kids birthday parties are supposed to be kid like an not full of drunk/drugged up idiots.
    Reading comprehension: Nowhere does it say there was drug use. Be realistic.

  • sabrina
    -- Nonmember comment from

    sabrina

    April 30, 2012 at 3:05 PM
    lets just omit any drug references (e cookies are in poor taste) and call it a blacklight dance party. Problem solved.

    But seriously, why are we so worried about how other parents are theming their kid's parties. If you don't like the theme, don't use it.
    If there is actual drug use at a children's party, then there is a safety concern. But otherwise, who cares.
  • mommy...
    --

    mommy2annaliese

    April 30, 2012 at 3:30 PM

    Whatever you think about first birthdays aside, raves are no place for children.

    children ESPECIALLY 1 year olds have way more sensitive hearing than us, and that loud music can HARM them.

    they could be crushed by people dancing, and a ton of other things.

     

    If you throw a "rave" for your childs 1st birthday, you are an idiot.

    :)


  • mommy...
    --

    mommy2annaliese

    April 30, 2012 at 3:33 PM

    Btw, if you have never been to a rave then you have no room to talk.

    ive been to several and i would never ever, bring my kid to one, or plan one for my child.

    that enviroment could be very scary. (Loud music, dark room, random lights,)


  • mommy...
    --

    mommy2annaliese

    April 30, 2012 at 3:38 PM

    Now, if you kept it really bright in there and played music your kids liked and made everything cute and fuzzy and danced around with them, and there was NO alcohol or drug use by adults, there wasnt a lot of people there, and you kept it from getting hot, that might be okay, but if your making it like an actual rave, then NO.


1-10 of 21 comments

To leave a comment, log in as a CafeMom member:

Log In

OR, use our non-member comment form: