Mom Convicted for Not Heeding Co-Sleeping Warnings

Vanessa Clark's mugshot, taken 11 months after the death of her infant son Tristan.It's hard to find much emotion beyond blame and outrage when it comes to the case of Vanessa Clark. The Texas mother lost a baby, son Christian, in 2009 after he was reportedly suffocated while co-sleeping with her and her husband. In 2010, her 2-month-old son Tristan died in a nearly identical manner -- while co-sleeping in bed with her and her husband. How could she let something like that happen twice?

Now, according to the Houston Press, she's been convicted of felony child endangerment, and faces two years of prison time for what the defense called SIDS deaths. The autopsy couldn't determine the specific cause of death, but there's no evidence that either was anything but horrific accidents. So doesn't she deserve some sympathy?

While her grinning mug shot, taken 11 months after Tristan's death, is almost too much to take, there's another part of me that thinks that beyond our outrage, we should have some compassion for this woman who lost her babies doing what so many others do -- as difficult as it may be to muster. It also raises some serious concerns about protecting a family's right to co-sleep.

Prosecutors say Clark should have known better, that after the first infant's death, she was warned about the dangers of co-sleeping. And I can't imagine how she could do so again after losing her baby the same way. But all parents are warned about the potential dangers of co-sleeping, and yet many still do. Should anyone who loses a child while co-sleeping be convicted? Even though I didn't co-sleep with my children and find the practice frightening personally, I'm not sure we want to go there.

Prosecutor Dale Summa told the court, "It may not be illegal to sleep with your child, but it is illegal to put your child in imminent danger." I agree, but does that mean all co-sleeping is considered imminent danger? Just where are the lines drawn? There are guidelines and suggestions for safer co-sleeping, but when does it become a criminal act?

The fact that Clark lost two babies in this manner is tragic and highly suspect, but I don't know that it should make it any more criminal in general that she had such bad luck (for lack of a better word) twice. Charging her for what is by all accounts an accident while co-sleeping feels like a pretty big threat for the many proponents of the practice.

Do you think co-sleepers should be held criminally responsible if an accident occurs?

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Kritika Kritika

She is an idiot. I'm glad she's being prosecuted. If you do something and get a bad (or tragic) result, don't do it again. Co-sleeping is dangerous when it's not done properly.

nonmember avatar kaerae

Cops have a word for two "SIDS" deaths in the same family...and it's noot "coincidence." Is that a mugshot or a cruise pic?


Yes I do. 

nonmember avatar Molly Anne

Why did you leave out the part about the elevated levels of hydrocodone & xanax in her system?

Brooke Wunderley Hrinda

Obviously she shows no grief in that mug shot, grinning like a complete idiot. Even 11 months later had I lost not one, but TWO babies I would not be smiling like that in ANY picture, let alone a mug shot. She absolutely should be prosecuted!

Cheek... Cheekimomonkey

I co-sleep.  There are safety precautions to take, and it's tragic when parents don't follow and it ends with a poor baby passing.  

Whipp... WhipperWhirl

What the hell is up with her mugshot?!

nonmember avatar HS

I can't help but wonder if this "woman" claimed her children died while co-sleeping but they really died at her or her husband's hands. Her mugshot alone tells me she's not playing with a full deck of cards. And if you're going to prosecute parents whose children die while co-sleeping then you may as well prosecute parents whose children died in their cribs cuz really one can say either parent was being negligent...wrong type of mattress, blanket in crib, etc. My son slept in a bassinet for his first few months. Then I moved him to his crib and eventually gave into his cries and moved him into my bed. It was just me and I was always very aware of him being in bed with me. Can't say I would make the same decision if their were 2 adults in bed though. That seems more dangerous to me especially considering men are usually the harder sleepers and less likely to be aware of the baby. It's a fine line and I think the first time can be forgiven but a second time needs to be investigated.

linzemae linzemae

Ugh, you just want to slap that smile off her face

Stacey. Stacey.

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

She needs to be prosecuted.

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