Baby Girl Abandoned After Horrifying Hospital Mistake

One of the most pronounced fears many new parents have is being handed the wrong baby at some point while in the hospital. At the hospital where my kids were born, neither of my babies left my sight from the moment they came out of me to, more or less, the moment we went home. We all had ID bracelets that couldn't slip off and my babies had alarm tags on their ankles. It was pretty secure.

But in other parts of the world, things are not as secure. And in Jodhpur, India, one story is particularly tragic. Two sets of parents who gave birth the same day were told they had a son. One of them, in fact, had a daughter. And now, nobody knows which one.

The boy was brought to the mother (who they are now saying isn't the mother). She believes it's her baby as anyone would. And now the hospital is saying otherwise and a baby girl has been abandoned by both parents who say she isn't theirs.

It's a tragedy any way you slice it and, in many ways, it's hard to blame the parents here. Would you trust the hospital in this case? I know I wouldn't.

Those early days are so important, though, both to baby and parents. They are the days when a mother sets up her milk supply, where she bonds with her baby, and where baby learns about the world outside of her mother's body. It isn't the time for baby to stay alone in her bed, far from the arms of her loving parents.

These images in my mind, of this poor baby girl, lying all alone, break my heart as a mom. And while I understand these parents were told something different, isn't it possible for one of them to love this baby while they wait for the results? Imagine the heartbreak one set of parents will encounter when they realize their baby was alone all that time.

If only the DNA test were faster. Every day this baby is alone is another day she doesn't have the warmth and love all humans need to grow well and strong. And every day this mother is separated from her biological child is another day she can't nurse her baby or hold her in her arms. It's just heartbreaking.

If you were these parents, what would you do?

 

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paren... parentalrights1

I sure as hell wouldn't sit there and argue whose baby is whose. I'd be worried about making sure and making sure both babies are loved and cared for until the results came


I bet it's more of an issue about neither wanting a daughter.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

I agree...its probably about neither set of parents wanting a daughter...which makes it even MORE tragic.

kelli... kelli0585

So sad for the little girl.  Two sets of parents fighting over a prized boy.  If anyone isn't familiar:  http://www.icrw.org/publications/son-preference-and-daughter-neglect-india  (article is 6 years old, but is still widely relevant)


While I don't know this particular situation, I do know that there is generally a heavy preference for boys over girls in India.  Economically and socially. 

mande... manderspanders

This was in India...  so the likely problem is that the parents do not want a girl at all.


Even if the mistake wouldn't have happened, that wouldn't mean that this girl would have lived happlily ever after.


 

craft... craftycatVT

Did I miss where it said how long it takes for the DNA test?

nonmember avatar Lilac

You forget this is India where boys are valued more than girls. Boys carry the name line, light there parents funeral pire and receive a huge dowry when they marry. Girls are an expense to raise and then marry off. Million of baby girls are aborted each year in India just because they are girls and even though most areas have made it illegal for the doctor to tell the parents the sex of the child it still happens.

Justa... Justamom283

I'm confused. How did they not know what the sex of the baby was when he/she is born? Didn't the doctors look? How do you just tell someone they had a son?

Erin Bosco

It's India, nobody wants a baby girl.  Disgusting.  

Cohiba77 Cohiba77

Lilac is correct. I have a good friend from India. Her sister still lives there and she is expecting a baby. I asked her if she will find out the sex and she said no. Apparently, in the area of India she is from, its illegal to find out the gender. Too many baby girls are being aborted and the boy/girl ratio is extremely lopsided, so much so that the government had to step in and axe ultrasounds for gender revealing purposes. So sad.

magic... magicalmommy12

This is sad. The part that makes it even worse is that this is all because neither family wants a little girl. I hope that she gets a loving home and soon.

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