'Baby Planners' Are Bad News for New Parents

Having a baby for the first time is a terrifying endeavor. No one would dare tell a new parent anything different. But as scary as it is, the fact is, you are not the first person to have a baby and you will almost surely not be the last, either. In other words: You do not need a baby planner.

Parents who hire baby planners (and there are many if you believe Rosie Pope and her show on Bravo all about planning for baby) are missing the point and also being taken. Sure, a baby planner might help ease some of the stress of planning for baby, but she can't raise the baby herself and, in many cases, is just an unnecessary expense for new moms who are scared and nervous and unsure.


It seems like a way to take advantage of new parent's nerves and as they grow in popularity, it is only going to continue to push the baby industry into becoming the "new" wedding industry -- a place where you can order a non-wedding limo for half the price of a wedding one ONLY because everyone knows you can overcharge a bride.

Parenting is all about trusting one's own instinct and all of that starts while baby is still in the womb. Parents who hire baby planners are more apt to hire someone to help them meet all their baby's milestones and will be the first to call in help when they need it.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help. In fact, more parents need to do so. But there is something wrong with having to always hire it. What about friends? Family? Co-workers? When I was pregnant, I was the first of my friends to have a baby, but my editor where I worked had a 6-year-old and she kindly took me all around to the baby stores to help me register.

It is nice to have other people's input and certainly nice to get some reassurance from people who have been there, done that, but to hire it? No way. From there it is just a hop, skip and a jump to these people being hired by $800 stroller companies to sell exclusively their products. By hiring baby planners, you are contributing to the notion that people HAVE to hire baby planners.

We have been having babies since the dawn of time and this is the first time in history we have ever needed "professionals" to help us do it right. It just feels wrong. Trust your instincts moms and moms-to-be. YOU know best.

Would you hire a baby planner?



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