The second you have a baby (actually, the second you get pregnant), everyone tells you to "seize the moment." Old women whisper it in line at the market: "Oh! Enjoy every second, it goes by too fast!" Your grandmother (who you know from stories didn't "enjoy every moment") tells you that every minute when her kids were young was her favorite. And even your parents, who you remember getting mad all the time, tells you "carpe diem." It's enough to make any mom go crazy.
After all, anyone in the trenches with you who is actually an honest person will admit that not every moment is a blast. Sometimes I want to ask that older person how well they REALLY remember it because they couldn't possibly have enjoyed explosive poops, late night wake up calls, and teething. They just think they do now in retrospect.
Blogger Glennon at Momastery has an amazing post about the things people mean when they say "carpe diem." She says:
Parenting is hard. Just like lots of important jobs are hard. Why is it that the second a mother admits that it’s hard, people feel the need to suggest that maybe she’s not doing it right? Or that she certainly shouldn’t add more to her load. Maybe the fact that it’s so hard means she IS doing it right ... in her own way ... and she happens to be honest .... But the fact remains that I will be that nostalgic lady. I just hope to be one with a clear memory. And here’s what I hope to say to the younger mama gritting her teeth in line:
It’s helluva hard, isn’t it? You’re a good mom, I can tell. And I like your kids, especially that one peeing in the corner. She’s my favorite. Carry on, warrior. Six hours till bedtime.
No one expects a new mom of a baby to enjoy every moment. And if they do, then they are kind of jerks. Because parenting at any stage is hard (oh believe me, it gets harder), but people say this most often to mothers of young children.
Most people don't say to the mom of a wayward 16-year-old: "These are the best moments of your life!" But they sure as hell do when you have an 18-month-old. The fact is, we are usually doing the best we can to appreciate what we can, but parenting a baby or a young toddler is hard work. They may look cute, but they are not easy.
So here are some moments you can skip seizing and no one will judge you for it:
What moments were you not into "seizing"?