My Son Never Crawled & He Turned Out Fine


My first child -- my daughter Samara -- was as easy a baby as they come. She hit each milestone right on time, she slept through the night at six weeks. She rarely cried unless it was for a specific and obvious reason. Because she was so simple we thought, "Hey! This parenting thing is a cinch! Let's do it again!"

How wrong we were. Our second child -- my son, Alan -- was born 18 months after our daughter and nothing was the same. It took him 15 months to sleep through the night, he loved nursing in a way my daughter had not. He nursed until he was three, in fact. But most of all, he wanted to be carried.

Even now, 3.5 years after his birth, Alan would still prefer to be carried everywhere we go. But when he was a baby, this was actually a problem.

It was around the 10 month mark where my pediatrician started to worry about my son's "crawl." He never crawled, in fact. He had perfected a sort of fast scoot on his bum and he managed to get around the house quite well using it. Crawling was not his thing.

I should have known this early on. We never did any tummy time because whenever we did, Alan would fall on his face, screaming until he was beet red. He acted like we were burning him with hot poker every time we tried. And tummy time came with the added bonus of his toddler sister's attempts to ride her baby brother, smack him or otherwise assert her authority.

In other words, tummy time was in short supply around our house with our second. It seemed fine at the time, but by month 10 when Alan would not even consider getting on all fours, it became a problem.

"We need to put him in early intervention," our pediatrician told us. And with that, I was introduced to a world of stress. The actual physical therapy appointments were not so stressful themselves. In fact, it was kind of nice to have someone come over and play with Alan for an hour every week. They forced the tummy time issue and helped work to build his core.

But I am a mom. I stress. I read incessantly about kids who never crawl or who are late crawlers and what it means. I learned each milestone builds on the last so he would probably also be a late walker because he had not built up the core strength in crawling to start pulling up to standing. I worried he might never walk. This went on for months.

Sure enough, 15 months rolled around and Alan was not closer to walking. I thought about it all the time, worried and worried and carried him everywhere. It took a long time, but by 19 months, he took his first fledgling steps. Then he was off. Within a month, he had his six-month assessment for EI and they declared him all caught up to other kids. Now, two years later, I know it is true. Judging from Alan on the playground and around town, one would never know he was a late walker. He is all caught up.

Of course, don't even get me started on potty training. The fact is, kids hit milestones at different times. As parents, we worry, stress and fret. But most of the time, they get there on their own time.

Did you ever worry about milestones?



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orang... orangetree

Some babies completely skip the crawling stage. It's not unusual. I wouldn't worry unless he is missing or delayed in other milestones

JessL... JessLogansMommy

My kids didn't crawl but for a different reason, they were early walkers.   My second son didn't talk.  His 1 year visit came and he wasn't saying mama and dada.  By 15 months the mama's and dada's were few and far between.  At his 18 month visit, full 4 word sentences.  My first was a preemie so milestones were expected late and with the second i was busy with 2 kids and didn't worry about the milestones.  I worried but not excessively.  

sofia... sofia0587

Not really so far she's met every milestone except sleeping thru the night and she's not going to be a a crawler but she's trying to walk already at 7 months. I never crawled and I turned out fine. :)

shann... shannipoo714

My son scooted too! It was the cutest thing ever!

douxm... douxmusique

ya know I never knew that crawling was an actually necessary thing until recently... and while my kids are fine i now firmly believe that my daughters lack of physical coordination at 9, and a few other funny things, are directly related to her not crawling. My other two crawled long enough and have always been way more physically capable than my oldest. Its interesting.

Eversnow Eversnow

I didn't crawl. I rolled. I rolled everywhere ( like a log roll ) Then I walked, Then crawled. 

Mrscj... Mrscjones

My son never crawled but he was walking by 10 months. Crawling really isn't necessary don't beat yourself up about it.

Danzz... Danzzcoach

LOL. You are awesome! My daughter now 8, NEVER crawled. SHe was a 30 weeker, and I just had different expectations, and was told she'd be delayed. SHe ROLLED EVERYWHERE! However, at 9.5 months she stood, and a few weeks later took her first steps, still NEVER crawling. We decided she had made the decision that crawling took WAY too much time and she found a more effective way to get where she was going. That is still VERY much her personality. She finds the best and most obvious way from point A to B. She is in gymnastics, and has done fabulously. SO I don't think NOT crawling hindered her in ANY way. My other two daughters started walking around or just after a year, and both crawled. Now, 4 and 5.  They are all exactly where they need to be and if you want to get technical, my baby that was 2.5 months early, and we were told after 4 months in the hospital to expect the worst, all kinds of delays, BLEW that theory out of the water! ;-) Kids are all different, they do things when they are darn good and ready. ;-)

tyrel... tyrelsmom

My son never crawled. He did the bumscoot too. But he started walking 4 days after his first birthday. I don't think not crawling did him any harm.

GlowW... GlowWorm889

I'm surprised your pediatrician suggest EI just because your son wasn't crawling. Crawling, at least for the last 10 years or so, hasn't really been seen as a necessary milestone. Common, sure, but not necessary. Most doctors are fine so long as your baby is mobile in some fashion, like scooting or rolling. My brother never crawled, but just rolled everywhere until he stood up one day and cruised around the living room. Perfectly fine. Our older one here rolled for the longest time before crawling, but preferred rolling as a faster mode of transportation.

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