The Best Baby Advice For New Parents

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Having a baby is scary, I know. I've had three, and each time I leave the hospital, I'm altogether certain the hospital is going to call me and say, "Whoops! You shouldn't be in charge of a baby! We're coming to get it now."

It's like the college graduation dream (the one where you're one credit short or the university calls you to tell you they're revoking your diploma), but a whole lot scarier.

And with me, It's happened with each baby. Somehow, though, I've managed to raise those babies into wonderful people. My secret?

It's simple.

It's not one of those secrets you find in a book, or a method, or even by word of Mom (which, I have to say, is the only other "method" I trust when it comes to parenting). No. It's even simpler than that.

It's one sentence, in fact. That sentence?

"Trust yourself -- you know more than you think you do."

I suppose it did come from a book -- Dr. Spock's book, in fact -- but that's the opening line of the introduction. And frankly, it's the best piece of parenting advice one can give. It's so easy, all of these competing methods out there, all telling you that you'll screw up your kid for life if you don't do these 10 things, to forget that we're smart people. We've done things -- great things -- before we popped out a kid or three. We know how to get by. We're capable, responsible people!

Yet somehow, once we're given a tiny baby, it's like all of that self-assuredness goes out the window. Suddenly, we're grasping at straws in the dark, trying to figure out what to do so as not to screw up our kid entirely.

Guess what?

You're going to do just fine. You won't be a perfect parent, but frankly who wants to be? Our kids (and the rest of the world) would resent us if we were.

So that's the one piece of advice I'd give to any new parent: trust yourself. You DO know more than you think you do. It may not always feel like it, but I assure you that you do.

I'd wish you luck, but your not gonna need it. Just try and get some sleep when you can, okay?

What advice would you give a new parent?

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Jecky... Jeckyls-mommy

Oddly enough this article does make me feel better. I haven't ha mine yet, still two months to go, but every parenting book and what to expect book seems to clash with the one before and I think this may be the best bit of information I've heard yet. Thank you

nonmember avatar Erin

Best advice I would give is don't worry and fuss. The easier going you are with your baby the better natured they will be. I don't follow exact schedules or time everything like wake time and sleep time. AND teach your baby to sleep in noise and chaos and not needing silence to sleep. I have 5 kids and all my kids napped in the middle of the living room with tv on and other kids running around. Now they sleep hours and right through the noise!

0Jenna0 0Jenna0

The best advice I have is to remember, you only have to do a good job today. If you tell yourself at the beginning of every day, it doesn't seem that hard. Surly you can make it through one day...

Eques... EquestrianMom

Good advice! One I often remond myself is that we all make mistakes, and most kids turn out fine despite horrendus parental oopsies! And some kids have parents driven to do everything right, and they still stumble. The best thing to do is take life (and parenting!) day by day, and use your errors as teaching moments for your kids. 

AKIMN... AKIMNA_ASHUN

I agree and I wish people wouldn't make parenting SOUND sooo hard.  If more people remembered that parenting is a blessed opportunity that requires some learning but is also very instinctual (just like any new job we take on), I think people wouldn't need to be reminded to "trust themselves".

vanes... vanessa5470

Don't go on CafeMom.

LKRachel LKRachel

great advice.  on top of that- the first three months kind of suck.  Sleep deprivation is tough but you WILL survive and you won't believe how much you love that little one.....AFTER those first three months.

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