Can Fatherhood Really Change a Man?

fatherhoodWe talk a lot about the many ways in which motherhood changes us. But how about guys? Does fatherhood change a man? Can becoming a father, in fact, make a bad boy mend his ways?

A new study suggests that – surprise, surprise -- the answer is yes. According to researchers at Oregon State University and University of Houston, men's tendency to commit crimes and smoke, drink, and partake of a certain illegal weed decreases when they become an adults – and most of those behaviors (crime, drinking, and smoking, though interestingly not marijuana use) decline even further once those men have kids.

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That's certainly very nice, but it's worth noting that, though some of study's "bad boys" – whose behavior was tracked by researchers starting way back when they were students at a high-delinquency elementary school -- did mend their ways once they had kids, others did not. (And I don't even know what to make of that weird blip about the pot smoking. What do you think is going on there?)

While we women can hope for the best – that fatherhood will prompt our partners to behave better, just as motherhood often inspires us to become better versions of ourselves – it's probably not a great idea to rely on this happening. In other words, if you're involved with a wayward jerk, I'm gonna say it's not a safe bet to assume that he'll suddenly transform into a fine, upstanding, considerate person the moment he lays eyes on the infant he has fathered.

On the other hand, it's a good thing to remember that women aren't the only ones who can experience profound changes once they embrace their new roles as parents. Men can, too – in ways we may not even realize and they may not even express.

Do you think fatherhood has changed your partner?

 

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