Jessica Simpson Has Much to Learn About Motherhood


Jessica Simpson is going to be an amazing mom. I am sure of it. For a woman who has as much as she does, Simpson seems down to Earth, loving, and hilarious. But when it comes to one thing, she seriously needs to manage expectations.

Just months away from delivering her first baby, the elder Simpson sister says she is already planning baby number two. As one mom who thought (and did) the same, I would urge her to rethink the plan.

Nine months into motherhood, I found myself pregnant for the second time and my two babies are a scant 18 months apart. It's awesome and it's awful all at the same time. My advice for any mom considering it is this: Decide AFTER your baby is born.

Prior to becoming a parent, it's simply impossible to really know what parenthood is like. You can guess and assume and pretend, but until you are there, baby in arms, you just have no idea what you will be like as a parent.

Sure, some might be thrilled and want 10 more kids and some (like the Duggars!) may even do that. But please, for the love of all things holy, do NOT say you want another baby before you have even had one.

New motherhood -- and motherhood, in general -- is hard. It's nothing you can predict and nothing you can plan for before jumping in. While I have no doubt Simpson is going to make an amazing mama, it's hard to know how SHE will feel about the task. No woman can know before they do it.

She may very well want another right away. But she might not, too. Right now, she simply doesn't know.

Did you think you wanted more before you had one? Did you change your mind?


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LikeA... LikeAVirgin

I only ever wanted one child, so back when I found out I would be having twins I had no plans for anymore after that. I had not intended on having kids so soon anyways, it was a complete surprise. And I was right; now at 7 months they are such a handful!!

tuffy... tuffymama

I didn't want another one while I was pg, but I didn't have the mney to hire help. Were I wealthy, I would guiltlessly hire help and have more kids. There is nothing wrong with having a helper to assist with the mundane details of childrearing. Often, hired help is experienced and trained in ways more greatly beneficial to parents and children than raising children without help. I wouldn't stop breastfeeding and switch to formula, or miss a bedtime story or leave my baby for hours at a time, but I would definitely let someone else take over a playtime, a walk outside, or cook a few meals so I could get some sleep.

I'm sure Jess will have help, and if she wants more kids, more power to her.

ashjo85 ashjo85

I wanted 3 before I had my first. I had to be talked into my second, lol! And we're DONE after this. You just never know.

EBee12 EBee12

I've always planned on having multiple children. I have one now, not 100% certain on when we'll start trying for the next, but I've always been absolutely sure I wanted children, and more than one was a definite. If anything, actually becoming a parent has raised the number of children I'd like to have.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

She's already 31 and women who get started on child bearing later in life tend to be thinking ahead. You also have no idea how long it took for her to conceive or what troubles she had. My son took a long time so we started trying when he was two months old and he's in first grade and still an only child so trying quickly doesn't necessarily mean she will have them close together.

Momma... Momma2blessed

I used to always say I wanted 4 but after the first I realized 2 will be my limit and I am due in a couple weeks and freaking out how crazy my life is about to get! They will be just over 2 years apart which seems good but shall see!

Melis... Melissa042807

I've always known I wanted more than one. And I did think about the timing during my first pregnancy. Believe me, this current pregnancy was extremely well planned! 

Starr... Starryambition2

Im always said I wanted two because for two kiddos five years apart is what my husband and I can afford. I want to be able to give my kids everything they want without cutting corners in another department. as far as Jessica Simpson she has enough money to hire help and get pregnant right away. Someone with that much wealth do you really believe she wakes up in the middle of the night to feed and change her newborn, like the rest of us. Dragging our butts with everything else in life because being a mother means taking care of everything and the newborn.

nonmember avatar Liz

No offense, but I don't see how this article has anything related to Jessica Simpson. Sure you said she has a lot to learn from motherhood and that she's planning her second baby... but then you go off onto your own tangent to talk about your life... then the Duggars. This whole article couldn't be more than one paragraph and we don't really care about your life or the Duggars, we wanted to read about Jessica Simpson. Sorry if it seems mean but it's the truth.

nonmember avatar guest

Liz...I care more about what Sasha and other readers have to say about motherhood than the vapid, fame hungry Jessica Simpson.

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