Breastfeeding Mom Sticks Up for Those Shunned for Nursing In Public (VIDEO)


I know the topic of nursing in public can be polarizing, and frankly at this point, often feels very repetitive and exasperating for many. However, I always have to remember that every day, women are becoming mothers for the first time. Like me when I was nursing my son in a booth in a restaurant and was asked to take it to the bathroom "for everyone's comfort", I had no idea that this was even an issue, much less did I know my legal rights or come prepared to handle it.

So repetitive as it may be to some, it's brand new territory to many others, and it's for those women that we continue to talk about it, continue to fight, and also want to wring the occasionally neck of the person who swears we're being selfish exhibitionist brats. But rather than writing out the entire rant myself, again, I'll let Kara Kay's video do it for me ... and then I want to explain where this kind of activism and anger comes from ... and why.

Just a warning, she does get worked up in her rant and unleash some cusswords:

Sit through the whole thing. Really, do it. To some, like the women who've commented on her video, we're saying, "AMEN, sister!" but I'm sure many others roll their eyes and shut it off, finding she's talking about their own words when she's rattling off rebuttals.

Jump to about 4:46. That's where the real, big issue starts. Often, people have absolutely no idea what it would really do to a woman's ability to function out with a baby if she couldn't nurse without hiding. Like Kara, my babies breastfed more frequently due to my underdeveloped breast tissue -- yet I was able to breastfeed exclusively, as long as I accepted that they needed to nurse a lot. I would nurse at home before getting in the car, sometimes offer the breast in the car before going into the store, and then still often find myself needing to nurse IN a grocery store as well. And no, I can't just ditch my full cart and go nurse in my car or a bathroom. Why? Because things melt, because my babies sometimes nursed for 45 minutes, and because like Kara says, honestly? I'm not about to ruin my entire day, make my older kids who are often with me sit in a bathroom stall, make my whole family wait for dinner or let mine get cold, just because someone else can't handle seeing a little "sideboob." Sideboob that is often LESS than what you can see on a magazine cover on the checkout line. And no, I can't use a nursing cover. My daughter hates it and won't nurse. Nursing my baby is about me. But mainly, it's about my baby.

It's Kara's last bit (around 7:47), is what the whole issue is about, why people get SO mad, and why it's so damn irritating that it leads to giant rants. You want to know what women who nurse their babies really want? What we really, truly, fight for, yell about, rant about, and get angry about? What if we got, would make us shut up and stop ranting and raving and staging protests and nurse-ins?

As Kara puts it, we just want to be LEFT THE !*@# ALONE.

That's it.

Do you agree with Kara Kay's rant?

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Brittany L. Ison

I cant say that I would have reacted any differently. Good for her :)

Lauren Danehy Kuhn

Here's what I say when someone mentions that women should breastfeed in a bathroom: "The day you decide to sit in a bathroom and eat all your meals will be the day I make my baby do the same." I hate the bathroom-thing. There's NO WAY I will nurse in ANY bathroom. That's not what bathrooms are for.

Ashley Jensen

LOVED it.  My thoughts exactly.

starr... starrsitter

I'm perpetually dismayed at a society that thinks boobs in public are ok for selling beer and manly ogling, but not for feeding babies. Americans need to grow up.

Lynette Lynette

bow downthat video is great!  Good gravy I once got a dirty look from an old guy when I WAS breastfeeding in the CAR.  Really....What an ass!  Oh and then the good old mall breastfeeding rm.  Lol, once I went in there, I swear it was the size of a bathroom stall.  I took my 2 older kids in there and baby.  It was dark and crowded.  The walls were blank.  Yeah, next time I just discreetly nursed my baby in the play area at the mall.  Not with a cover though because that is like wearing a neon sign saying "I'M FEEDING MY BABY", I have gotten more dirty looks wearing those than w/out.  W/out people think I am just holding a sleeping baby(except for other breastfeeding moms, they just know.)  Great video!

sweet... sweetmom1007

I didn't breast feed my children. It doesn't bother me if women breast feed in public. Who Cares! It's done discreetly. Leave the women alone! It's for their babies!

Choco... ChocoGreenmama



eliza... elizabooks

As long as it is done discreetly then it's fine. But one should take others views into consideration. The good of the many outweigh the needs of the few or one.

Besides not all breastfeeding rooms are bad. The ones I used were quite comfortable and had room for other kids to rest and wait.

lagne lagne


I haven't watched the video yet, but I gotta say, I already agree with the rant. I don't even have kids, but I've never understood the whole "ewww it's a boob avert your eyes don't corrupt my childrens' innocent eyes!" thing. Then again, I'm the friend who visits my new mommy friends in the hospital and sits with them, supports them, lets them cry, and helps however I can as they try to figure out the whole nusing thing.

Mothers - those who nurse, those who don't, and those who cannot - have it hard enough without this kind of crap.

Elizabrooks: One SHOULD take others' views into consideration. Someone who doesn't want to watch a nursing mother is free to look away. But a nursing mother must either feed her baby or let it scream - looking away from a hungry baby doesn't solve HER problem.

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