Alanis Morissette Is Right About Motherhood

Alanis Morissette is famous for her somewhat bold attitude and creativity. She seems to be someone who lives life on her own terms, so motherhood has probably been a shocker for the new mom whose baby son Ever was born last December.

And from the moment he arrived, the woman who once announced that she goes down on men "in a theater" was totally changed. Her description of new motherhood is, in typical Alanis fashion, very apt and astute.

Soon after his birth, she said:


Ever has cracked open a door in my heart that I had been dusting off for years in anticipation of this kind of opportunity to love. [Motherhood is] the softest and cuddliest sucker punch.

Indeed, it is. No matter how much you love your parents and your siblings and your spouse, nothing can prepare you for the love you will feel for a child. It isn't a matter of who you love more or who you love less, but it's another kind of love.

As a parent, you not only love this person, but you feel wholly responsible for everything they are and will become. The responsibility is breathtaking and also overwhelming. Those early days of new motherhood are sometimes as terrifying as they are love-filled.

It's a love unlike any other and almost indescribable to an outsider. But Alanis tries and she gets pretty close. I remember going out to sushi with my husband while my aunt stayed with our 3-day-old, looking around the restaurant, and bursting into tears. Every person in the restaurant had their life and mine was completely, utterly, and irrevocably altered. It was so scary. Much like being punched in the gut.

I worried about my baby the whole 45-minute dinner and then we raced home. We spent the next few days alternately crying with happiness and crying with terror. It was the biggest change my husband and I had ever had. And it made us parents.

How would you describe new parenthood?

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