If I hear the term "breastfeeding bullies" to describe people who tout the (many) benefits of breast milk one more time, I think I will scream. The fact is, breast milk is the best thing for young babies. Go ahead and throw stones at me.
For those still reading, I realize there are extenuating circumstances, reasons that mothers might not want to breastfeed and a million physical reasons she can't. But generally speaking, breast is best. Deal with it. Since when is saying this, knowing all of the medical evidence, really so shocking and edgy?
Even Psychology Today gets attacked after they present facts and empirical evidence as to why breastfeeding is the best way to feed babies. There is something wrong with that picture. Are we really so oversensitive as a culture that we can't hear facts without flying off the handle?
According to Psychology Today:
The evidence is overwhelming regarding the quality difference between formula and breastfeeding. Mother's milk, developed through evolution with thousands of ingredients to build the human brain, body and immune system, is incomparable with a man-made product of a couple dozen ingredients that are non-human and in wrong proportions ... The first bottom line is that breast milk is the evolved standard for human babies. Anything else is detrimental to their best growth and development. Unless it is an emergency.
It's simple. It's clear. And it isn't wrong. If moms want to support other moms toward feeding their babies in the best and healthiest way, that doesn't make them a "bully." We all have to stop being so sensitive.
It seems I can't even bring up my natural labor or the fact that I nursed for three years without the mom I am talking to becoming defensive and angry unless she did the same. There is simply no reason for it. If you're confident in your decision not to breastfeed or you simply couldn't, then fine. But what is the use in lying? Breast milk is ideal. Formula is not.
We all know it's the truth and perhaps that is the reason people are so sensitive. We feel guilty. I know it because I feel it, too. We all have our sensitive points and places where we think we've failed. But we also can't let our sensitivity override our good sense. Yes, there are women who push breastfeeding too hard, who don't allow moms to make their own choices. But they're less common than the moms who simply want to help fellow moms succeed. Breastfeeding should be more common than it is. What is so wrong with offering support to women who need it? How is that "bullying"?
Do you think the cry of "bullying" is going overboard?
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