It's funny to look back on our lives before we became mothers and see the risks we took and things that mattered so much then that have no place in our lives now. Some of the choices we made back in our younger, wilder days are just fond memories, but some of them have longer-term effects that impact our children. If only we'd known then what we know now ... for Tori Spelling, it's her boobs.
She says she regrets getting her breast augmentation surgery done in her 20s. While her big breasts felt necessary back then to make her a sexier, more desirable actress, they have no place in her life now. In fact, she worries about how they have and will affect her ability to breastfeed in the future.
Last week, she told Good Morning America:
Well I got my boobs done ... in my early 20s. If I had known that it would or could possibly impact production of [breast] milk, I wouldn't have had them.
Many women are able to breastfeed after getting implants, and Spelling has breastfed her children in the past, but with many challenges, which may or may not have been linked to the implants. Some women can't at all. It's a risk you have to consider when getting them, but risks when you're young don't seem so risky when you're talking hypothetical children and lives that may or may not happen down the line. Then you hold your little baby, and everything changes.
Spelling went on to say, "I love being a mom. I'm on my third baby. We want to have more. Like, that's my role. These [big breasts] don't matter."
Motherhood also led her to rethink her famous feud with her mother, Candy Spelling.
When they [the kids] were babies, it wasn’t -- it was important, but now they ask for her -- they want to be with grandma. When I see her doing things with the kids, it reminds me, "Oh my gosh, I remember when she did that with me."
I think that you get to have a whole new relationship with your parent through your children. And I think that’s a really nice experience.
If only we could find a way to impart all the wisdom we gain as mothers to our younger selves ... though we probably wouldn't listen anyway.
Is there anything you regret doing when you were younger that has impacted your life as a mother?
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Going to baseball games
Riding bike rides in the nice weather
Playing outside after work/school
Going for walks outside