New Mom Secret: I Am Embarrassed of My Baby

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:

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My daughter is 8 months old and from the beginning, her doctors were concerned about her flat head. They started to suggest a helmet about four months ago, and it was just put on her last month. I was dreading it the whole time and now it's even worse. When I take her out, I feel like people are staring and thinking I'm a bad mom or that I did something wrong to her. People don't even ask questions. They just stare. Little kids laugh. I am so embarrassed, I don't even want to take photos. I feel awful. -- Anonymous

I never had this exact situation in my life, but I will say that I have been self-conscious about something. Sometimes when you think people are staring or pointing and laughing, they aren't. When we're self conscious or embarrassed, sometimes we think things that are wrong.

That said, I wonder if there are things you can do to make it easier. Maybe meet other parents who have gone through this with their kids and see how they handled it. Or join a play group of all kids with helmets who can make you feel more normal.

This is a period of time that is finite and there are so many worse things that could be wrong with her. I am not sure that helps, but perspective is always a good thing when considering these things. You love your daughter and she is healthy and lovely as well, I'm sure.

Do you have any advice for this mom?

 

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