New Mom Secret: I Took My Baby to a 'No Kids' Wedding

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


My son is 3 months old and we were invited to a wedding of a close friend of my husband's. He had to go and I really wanted to go with him, but I wasn't ready to part from the baby even though the invitation (and the bride and groom) had been very clear: NO KIDS ALLOWED. It was all over the invitation, and when my husband broached the topic with his friend, he was very unreceptive. We told them we got a sitter even though we never even tried. At the last minute, the "sitter canceled" and we showed up with our son. He was totally fine, but we got a lot of eyes the whole night. -- Anonymous

I am so torn on this one. Mostly because I think it's incredibly rude to have a no kids allowed wedding. On the other hand, it was their wedding and what you did was underhanded.

I guess if it had been me, I would have stayed home and encouraged my husband to do the same. As a nursing mom of a 3-month-old, leaving him for 12 hours is probably not feasible and it's really too bad your friends didn't have some empathy for that. They invited you, but they really didn't invite you given your situation.

I think it's perfectly acceptable to skip weddings where no kids are invited. Yes, even when they're good friends. They have the right to have their wedding any way they want, but they can't make you come to it.

Do you have any advice for this mom?


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