It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.
This Week's Secret:
My son is 2 months old, and when we first brought him home, we were doing the sponge bath thing because of the cord. Then that fell off and we were left with a baby who hated bath time. HATED it. He would scream and cry and thrash and turn red in the face. It was horrendous. So we stopped. We wipe him with wipes and change him into clean clothing, but we bathe him maybe every two weeks, sometimes less. Our pediatrician knows it's rare, but we weren't honest about how rare it really is. -- Anonymous
I was guilty of the opposite problem when my son was little. I bathed him every day and he got eczema. So I was told to only bathe him once a week and just sponge him off in the meantime. Babies are little and easy to clean. They don't need a full bath to get clean.
That said, babies spit up. They soak in their own feces and urine. And they do get funky. Besides, if he hates baths and you never bathe him, how will he ever get used to bathing? For now, you can still practice the sponge baths, but I would say wipes aren't enough. He needs to be cleaned once in a while, too. Even twice a week would be better and get him used to it.
Experiment with different kinds of baths, temperatures, toys, and ways of bathing. You can get in with him and hold him or put him in a inflatable tub or put warm towels on his belly if he is cold. But bath time is an important time to experiment and learn and, yes, get clean. It's pretty important.
Do you have any advice for this mom?


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I've fostered many babies with many different issues...some I found I just had to get in the tub myself and hold them tight...one little girl, I swaddled in a light blankie and THEN set her into the little tub, gradually taking away blankie, and that worked. One absolutely HAD to have her feet in the water kicking or she would scream bloody murder. They're all different, keep trying!
Every two weeks isn't that bad. Especially if baby doesn't spit up a TON like my second born. :) I wouldn't use wipes, just because of the alcohol in them, but would use a warm washcloth. I also showered with my babies. They all were confident in my arms and came to LOVE the shower. There are now 5, 4, 2, and 1 and prefer a shower to a bath.
Your child isn't going to LIKE doing a lot of things as they get older.. Part of being a parent is doing what is in their best interest. I think this mother needs to learn this now. Every couple of days is fine, but that baby is sitting in fecal matter all day. Listening to a baby cry for 3 minutes while you bath them isn't the end of the world and they won't hold it against you forever. I do suggest trying to shower with the baby, or different methods (keeping a warm wash cloth on top of them the entire time you bathe them)
The first time I gave my son a bath he screamed because the water was too cold. I made the water warmer and he has loved bath time ever since. You don't have to bathe your son everyday. However he needs a bath. Boys can get build up gunk on their pee pees if you don't wash it properly. There are some things we don't like to do as parents but we do because we have to. Maybe you could make bath time for fun by taking a bath with him or something.