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Purple Crying Program Will Make You Re-Think Your Parenting Skills

by Linda Sharps on June 29, 2011 at 12:02 PM

When my now-3-year-old was an infant, I was fairly convinced he had reflux or colic or some kind of painful baby ailment of some kind. I remember feeling trapped in a sort of endless cycle of crying, difficult feedings, puke, more crying, more difficult feedings, and more puke. My pediatrician said he was fine, but every single person I knew had a colic story of some kind or another, and each one involved a different sort of treatment.

Here's a partial list of some suggestions I got: check him for thrush, switch to soy, add Karo syrup to his bottle, buy venting bottles, try Zantac/Prevacid, use gas drops, put digestive enzymes in his bottle, massage his belly in the direction of the digestive tract, check him for Pyloric Stenosis as he may need surgery (!!).

Meanwhile, the doctor was like, "Yeah. Babies cry. It sucks, but he'll get over it." And you know what? He did. The Time of Crying and Spitting Up eventually faded, although we still have the carpet stains as a memento.

I was so utterly convinced something was WRONG with my kid, I wish I'd known then about The Period of PURPLE Crying.

Have you heard of this? Developed by the National Center on Shaken Baby Syndrome, The Period of PURPLE Crying is intended to educate parents that seemingly endless amounts of crying are a perfectly normal part of a baby's development. This program shies away from the term "colic" altogether, instead promoting the idea that long-lasting, painful-looking crying isn't related to an illness or abnormal condition.


The PURPLE part of the name isn't related to the reddish face babies often get when they're sobbing inconsolably, but rather the following:



Now, I never shook my baby, thank you very much, but I'm pretty sure I would have found this information helpful—if only to counter the growing fear I had that my baby was sick and I needed to "fix" him.


I only heard about The Period of PURPLE Crying a couple weeks ago when a radio station PSA mentioned the website, but apparently some families are being required to watch brief DVDs on the subject before leaving the hospital with their newborn.


It sounds like a great idea to me, but I'm sure some folks who saw great results from reflux medications will disagree. The Period of PURPLE Crying basically discounts the idea that you should treat a child for crying ("When the baby is given colic medicine, it reinforces the idea that there is something wrong with the baby when in fact the baby is going through a very normal developmental phase").


How do you know if your baby has a legitimate GERD issue or if they're just experiencing the dreaded PURPLE period? I have no idea, really. But I like any program that tries to take some of the frustration and fear out of those early months of new parenthood.


Have you heard of The Period of PURPLE Crying? Do you think it sounds like a good idea to present it during hospital stays, etc., or do you think it could lead to missed diagnoses?



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Filed Under: baby health, colic & crying

Comments

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  • sadyjo31
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    sadyjo31

    June 29, 2011 at 12:07 PM

    This would have been good info to have 4 years ago! LOL! But I'm sure it will relieve some pressure from new moms now!


  • Kayla...
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    KaylasMamaJ

    June 29, 2011 at 12:12 PM

    I had my daughter almost 3 years ago in NC and they had me watch a video and/or sent one home with me.  Thank god she was never a big crier, but I can't understand how anyone thinks shaking a baby will help anything.  It's bizzare. 


  • ashjo85
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    ashjo85

    June 29, 2011 at 12:15 PM

    I got VERY lucky, and I didn't have a crier. When she cried, she wanted something, and a feeding or bink generally fixed it. But education is always good for parents, if for no other reason than to know it's normal.


  • KTMOM
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    KTMOM

    June 29, 2011 at 12:18 PM

    interesting.


  • Jamie...
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    Jamie Metzger-Maxaner

    June 29, 2011 at 12:19 PM

    Yeah this is great if you know 100% that there is nothing wrong with your baby. For example my son went threw a short "colic" stage as well, i was frearful becuse i have chrones and thought he may be sick in some way i could not see to help. My sons doc told us the same this, he crys, he will grow out of it, but i was not convinced at all. Mind you he showed all the symptoms listed above. Well i tryed letting him "cry it out" but that didnt help , maybe i was impatain but i found a CURE, yes i did say it , A CURE! It was called collic water and i got it at cvs.cheap. Apperently i was right he was haveing a bit of reflux which is very hard for a baby as well as tummy achs, this water calmed it and within two night it was gone, when i saw him start to feel it i would give him a does and he would be fine, no more crying and no more pain. He would be so relived and the look in his eye , the look of thank you for making it stop mommy will never fade from my mind.  This colic water was all natural consisting of things like h20, ginger and other herbs....So befor you just let your child cry, make sure they are no in pain, because the pain they may be having they cant point out and you will not see....

    Jamie Maxaner


  • Taube
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    Taube

    June 29, 2011 at 12:32 PM
    My daughter had this, but we called it the 4:30 crazies!
  • meatb...
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    meatball77

    June 29, 2011 at 12:53 PM

    Aah, colic water which has belladonna in it.  A little bit of poison helps.

    All of those cures eventually work because the kids grow out of the problem.  It bothers me how quickly parents are willing to jump for medication and untested unregulated herbs when their child is having a crying juant. 


  • momto...
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    momtothemax2910

    June 29, 2011 at 1:29 PM
    I've never heard of this as named but knew of it. I've heard it described as daily exercise, stretching lungs, finding voice, etc. As my mom said, babies cry - sometimes for no reason, sometimes for a very good one. Pay attention to your baby's cues and you'll both be fine. And if you get stressed, jump in the shower and/or call me.
  • Brianna
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    Brianna

    June 29, 2011 at 1:45 PM
    Reason #2685 I'm glad I have pets instead of children.
  • umchi...
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    umchickie

    June 29, 2011 at 1:56 PM

    I haven't heard of this program, but I think having parents watch a DVD in the hospital would be helpful to the new dad as well as the mother to get an idea of what may be ahead. My husband is a great dad but he just could not deal with the crying. Both of my babies were criers and I was more I was more stressed trying to "fix" them so Daddy wouldn't freak out than I was concerned that there was something terribly wrong with them.


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