Levi Johnston Wanted a Boy for All the Wrong Reasons

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Bristol Palin makes many claims against Levi Johnston in her book Not Afraid of Life: My Journey So Far, which comes out on Friday. But one of the saddest came at the moment she told Johnston she was pregnant. "It better be a boy," he told her, and it's one part of her book I have no doubt is probably true.

The fact is, many, many men prefer boys. Whether it's because they're more comfortable with them or they simply aren't evolved enough to realize girls can do anything boys can do is unclear. What is clear is that men -- and some women -- prefer boys.

Most of these reasons hinge on stereotypes. These include:

  • "Girls are all drama," for instance. Well, I can say, as a parent of both, both of my children are equal drama.
  • "Boys whine less," they also say. Well, I call BS on this one. My son whines way, way more than my daughter.
  • "Boys play sports." Hey bucko! Girls play sports, too, now what with it being 2011 and all that. They play them well and they play them hard and they need dads (and moms) to coach and guide and practice with them. Get with the program, dudes!
  • "Boys need less." If you think this, then you're probably not cut out to parent either sex. Both boys and girls need an equal amount of kissing and hugs and love and encouragement. If you can't see that, you have issues.

Personally I have my own bias. I love having a daughter and a son, but I have no shame in saying that if we did go for a third, I would like it to be another girl. Not because of some massive stereotype, but because I enjoy having a child of the same sex. It makes me feel slightly more comfortable from the get-go.

That said, I will take the kid I get and be happy. Preferring a boy is a bit outdated. While we're allowed to have slight gender preferences, that insistence on a boy to avoid certain stereotypes is the mark of someone who isn't ready to parent any child, girl or boy.

You get the kid you get, and if that's a boy who loves pink or a girl who loves baseball, you deal and you love them. You don't get to pick. 

Did you have a gender preference?

 

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AFwif... AFwifenmom97

My first born is a girl. With my second I did want a boy because we were only going to have 2. Another girl. Well fast forward 5 years and we decided we wanted to add to our family. Period. We really didn't care if it were another girl. We weren't trying for a boy. We just wanted another child. I did cry a little when I found out we were having a third girl. I had my heart set on our boy's name. He was going to have my hubby's middle name and the same initials as hubby and his dad. Well when I told my husband we were having a girl, with a little sadness in my voice, he hugged me and said "I love all 4 of my girls." I got over it right then. He is so good with them. They are 9, 7 and 2. They are absolutely daddy's girls and I really believe he could care less about not having a boy. He is the second of 5 boys. No sister's, and I have 2 of each. That's the only reason I get a little sad that we aren't having any more children. We will never have that chance to have a boy, and we're fine with that.

Sherr... SherriPie

My first was a boy and I was hoping for a girl.  Wouldn't change it for the world.


My second was another boy, and I was hoping to even the pair.  Again, wouldn't change it for the world.


Not sure if we'll try for a girl or not.  I just had my baby last week.

ashjo85 ashjo85

I really wanted a boy with my first, and it was a girl. But she's perfect, wouldn't trade her for the world. Her dad could NOT care less about a gender. When we start trying for #2, I know I'm going to be hoping like crazy for a boy. But if it's another girl, there will be no crushed souls either. I only ever had a sister, so a boy would be SO different for my whole family. My hubby has one brother and THREE sisters. All in a row. Two boys, three girls.

Melissa Ruel

My firstborn is a boy and I'm hoping that this one will be another. Why? Because the girls in my family were the dramatic ones. Why do I want a girl? Because there's more grandsons than granddaughters in hubby's side, and right now my side is 2 boys to 1 girl. I know I'll be happy with either, but darn it, my son just melts my heart so don't blame me for wanting another that looks just like his Daddy.

undom... undomesticme

My husband totally nixes the stereotype about men wanting boys.  He wants daughters - and not sons.  Although I know he'll love any child we end up having - if he was given the choice, he wants girls.

Kasey Comingore

my dh has a son, so when we got pregnant, i was hoping for a girl.  we have a beautiful son, whom i could not love any more.  our next child i will be hoping for a girl. if it is a son, i will swear i wanted a boy.    

butte... butterflymkm

My fiancé really wanted a boy so when we got the 20 wk ultrasound he was holding onto that 10-20% chance our baby would morph into a boy or was hiding it's penis or something lol! But now? Our DD has him wrapped around her little finger completely! & he's told me that he hopes any future children we have will be more awesome little girls. I'm sure that means we will have boys if we have more because mother nature is ironic that way.

momka... momkaribg

I have 2 boys and even though I wanted a girl I couldn't imagine my life without my wild boys lol

Pnukey Pnukey

Yes, I had a preference, and got over it. Now, I have one of each, so I have no complaints. 

Peajewel Peajewel

My husband says that everyone has a preference, everyone just does not admit it.  I wanted a girl when I got my son and a boy when I got my daughter.  I was happy with both of course.  My husband wanted a girl very badly, he was thrilled when we found out we were having a daughter and now he is teaching her to play all kinds of sports. 

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