New Mom Secret: I Ignore My Baby's Cries & Don't Feel Bad

It's hard being a new mom (or even an experienced mom to a new baby) and sometimes we do things we know we shouldn't, despite what all the experts say. But this is a safe place to share your secrets (PM me)—we'll never tell.

This Week's Secret:


My daughter is 4 months old now and has been diagnosed with acid reflux. All she does is cry. And cry. And cry. AND CRY. I'm a stay-at-home mom and at the end of my rope. I bounce her, we take walks, I try the swing, and on and on. But lately I have just been putting her in her crib, going into the bathroom, and running the shower. I can't hear her there. When I come out, she is always still screaming. Am I damaging her? -- Anonymous

Mommies need time-outs, too. Mommies of babies with colic need more time-outs than others. I feel for you and I think you sound like you're trying to do all the right things.

That said, you need help. Even if you hired a mother's helper for one hour a day just to take her off your hands and let you have peace and quiet, you would come back ready to handle the challenges. Family, friends, neighbors, and 12-year-old girls love to hold babies and help new moms if you ask.

It takes a village, right?

Do you have any advice for this mom?

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