I remember Kiddo's first playdate. She was maybe a month old, and my friend came over with her 3-month-old. We chatted, discussed sleeping schedules, breastfeeding hints and tips, gear that we loved. Yup, we had a great time ... as both Kiddo and her new buddy slept. The gathering was much more about the two moms, about us getting some much-needed adult face time, some great mommy-to-mommy hang time.
So, was this really Kiddo's playdate ... or mine? And can we even call it a playdate, because, well, really, no one exactly played.
Don't get me wrong, I am all for moms -- especially new moms -- getting together. I think it's healthy and good for that new mama soul to be around fellow moms and share what is going on, recharge knowing you aren't the only one that goes crazy when the Pinky Dinky Doo soundtrack comes on, or trade hints on hiding drool stains.
But, when the kids are newborns, the word playdate doesn't really work. When they get a bit older, the infants do kind of play -- or at least stare at each other. But these first few gatherings, nope, no playing. So, I think we should come up with a new name for them. Mommy meetings sounds too formal, mama klatch is too hard to say, mommy/baby brouhaha is, well, just odd.
It's tough when you are a new mom to fit this time in -- nap schedules, feeding times, other siblings' classes, or school get in the way. But you need to ... it's a great thing to do for your mental health. And really, it doesn't matter what we call it.
When was your baby's first playdate?
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